‘It was a blessing’

I know people are just trying to be kind when they say this but it really annoys me because it wasn’t a blessing that dementia robbed my mum and me of 5+ years of her life or that it’s any less painful that she’s now gone.

Hello Joanne67,

It’s understandable that things like this annoy you, even though you know people are just trying to be kind. You’re not the only to feel this way about the things people have said to you - there’s actually been a few conversations here about this, which be worth a look at if only to reassure you that you’re not alone:

https://support.sueryder.org/community/losing-child/platitudes
https://support.sueryder.org/community/losing-partner/oh-i-know-exactly-what-youre-going-through

Take care,
Eleanor

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