You think that the death of a child is the worst thing that could ever happen…
…and then they stay dead.
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Hello @toomuchforme,
I’m so sorry to read about your daughter. It sounds like you are missing her deeply, and her absence is painful.
I just wanted to reach out to thank you for sharing so honestly and to let you know there is lots of other support out there. I would really encourage you to speak to someone about how you are feeling. The following website might help you find support services closer to home: https://help.befrienders.org/
You deserve care and support, @toomuchforme - keep on reaching out.
Take care,
Alex
Thank you, Alex. It’s nice to be acknowledged.
My heart goes out to you, they stay dead is such a powerful insightful way of putting it.
small small steps for you be kind to yourself.
better people will be along keep posting.
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I am so sorry you have lost your beautiful daughter. The pain you are feeling is so clear in your words.
It will be 2 years in August since I lost my daughter. Nothing about this is easier or any better than the day she died. I still think it’s all a very bad dream, or that I am living in my head and when I come out of this she will be here with me.
The only positive I can see is that as I go to sleep each night it’s another day of my life over.
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My wife would certainly relate to you. Our daughter took her own life while she was living in Canada. We live in Australia. My wife still sometimes likes to believe our daughter is still alive and living over there.
We each deal with our grief in our own way, there is no right or wrong, but I take comfort from those whose grief overlaps my own. I feel less of an outcast.
I have a close friend whose daughter died in Australia. The added pain of dealing with her loss in an alien country was compounded by the difficulty of negotiating funeral arrangements and dismantling her life in a finite amount of time. I am sorry your daughter died so far from home, losing a child is unbearable without those added burdens.
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Thank you for your reply, MoBe. I am very sorry for your loss as well. Our daughter was missing for three days before the police found her. Being on the other side of the world made us feel utterly useless and helpless. Strangely enough, the most disturbing aspect of bringing her home was the thought of her being in the cold, dark belly of an aeroplane for 16 hours. Funny what the mind chooses to focus on!
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