Hi Christine. If I tried to explain, the reasons behind this lowly place, I am now in , would require a book. So I will try and keep it concise. My sister has always been a manipulative, narcissistic person, even when we were very young, she would not allow me to hang out with her, or her friends. When I got to my teens, she used me to take me down to nightclubs, because between the two of us, I was, shall we put it, easier on the eye. Therefore attracting males.
She met someone, who shall we say, was less than desirable. Indeed, it was with this man? She went onto steal from my mum. She was by now taking drugs and living in a run down area, neither of them working.
Fast forward 20 years, she met a University lecturer , 19 years her senior, he was in a relationship, but she got herself pregnant, so they had a shotgun wedding.
My mother who by then took on the role of looking after her first grandchild at the age of 72, as my sister claimed she had PND, however, this did not stop her from going to China town for meals etc. She never gave my mum a dime for her daughters care, not fir nappies, food etc. Would promise mum she would be round to collect her child and then never show up, they lived less than 10 minutes away. If my mum challenged her she would turn lt around and say am I not entitled to a lie in!
The bond my mum and niece had was beautiful, much to my sisters disgust, jealousy, so she destroyed it. Hence the first part of my mothers decline.
Then my sister decided she didn’t want or indeed have the room no more for me and my mum at Christmas last year, meaning 2021. It was so sad, just me and mum.
So my mums health deteriorated and despite my sister living across the road from my mum, she ceremonially handed the caring role to me. I lived at my mums for the last few years of her life. I lived further away and cannot drive.
My sister stole 2 rings, one meant for her the other for me, of which she had attached a note explaining this.
The funeral arrangements, I was left out of , the flowers and the memorial pamphlet included pictures of all the family, aside from me.
I went to the funeral, her family was on one side, I was on the other.
She has brainwashed my father into hating me, so she will be fully entitled to all the estate, even though my mum had a Will drawn up in my favour. It was not witnessed by 2 people as is the Law.
My mother was elderly and not in the best health, but what ultimately killed her was, she died from a broken heart, fractured by my sister dividing the family straight down the middle.
Hence, without any children and my husband leaving in 2020, I am grieving alone. I wish you well, fully understand what you are feeling/going through, here if you need me . Take care x