Thank you for your understanding.I am sorry you lost your sister. You sound like you had a warm and close relationship. I know how difficult it is to loss someone who you love.
I totally understand the dynamic with your other sibling, my sister is exactly the same, minus the husband. She has resented me her whole life, acts like a bully with me, jealous, has no kindness, compassion all she wants to do is break me. Unsure what she gains from it.
I agree with you. I have had more understanding and support on this site than friends or family. It’s such a huge help.
Things with my sister are escalating to a degree. I feel anxious all the time. Her energy is so negative and consuming. I stay out of the way. She does petty childish things all day. If I go in the kitchen to get food or make a drink she starts slamming all the doors shut- the kitchen, the sitting room, the dinning room. It’s like ‘you are not welcome’, passive aggressive. If she’s in the kitchen at the same time, she turns her back and stand there. It’s like a tantrum each time. I am ignoring but it is hurtful and immature. You would not think she is 53yrs old!!
Yesterday I paid my half of the solicitor fees that I owed her (trying to sort out my dads estate only my brother is being super difficult so we appointed one to represent us), I left the invoice on the table where she sits saying paid and the amount. She slammed all the doors, cussed and was angry as hell. I was in my room. I then receive a call from the solicitor stating she no longer wants us to be represented.
If I don’t pay the money it’s wrong and then I would hear- she’s lost money etc. If I pay my half as the solicitor represents both it’s still wrong.She only reacted after I paid the money but it’s been a week since she paid it and all was fine as in her usual behaviour of late…she was not speaking, being negative, slamming doors, shutting me out and keeping me isolated.
I am exhausted, she’s emotional ill equipped.
Thankfully I have an outlet on the forum, without it I think things would be dire!!
I appreciate you sharing and I hope you are ok. Keep posting here…
Take care, hugs x