There are so many different perspectives on grief. This one is based on some of the spiritual inights of Edgar Cayce.
When you mourn someone, you’re not just expressing sadness, you’re extending your consciousness toward theirs. Your love, your tears and your memories reach across the divide and the soul on the other side receives them. But, Edgar Cayce warned, grief can also become a chain. When mourning becomes obsessive, when it refuses to soften, when it locks the living in a state of permanent anguish, it doesn’t just damage you; it makes the transition harder for the soul you love. Because that soul is still sensitive to your emotions. If it feels you drowning in despair, it may resist the natural pull toward its higher destination. It may try to stay closer to the physical world longer than it should. Not out of choice, but because it cannot bear to feel you suffer. So, how do the living best serve the dead? By grieving them fully and then releasing them with love. Cry, mourn and feel every ounce of your loss but then, when you’re ready, and only you know when that is, say something to them. Not out loud but with your heart. Go and be free. I love you and I will always love you. I will find you again but right now, go. These words are not abandonment; they are the greatest act of love a living person can offer a departing soul.
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Dear Wilson
Wise words although easier said than done. I tell my wonderful husband to fly free almost daily x
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Thanks for posting @Helen39
I totally agree. I can’t help but wonder if there’s some truth in what Edgar Cayce said though. What if he’s right? What if our persistent grief is preventing them from moving forward in their spiritual development? What if our attachment to them is literally holding them back? What if they do not want us to waste our precious time in the physical world consumed by loss? What if the kindest, most loving thing we could do for them is to let go?
The thought that my grief might be holding my wife back in some way doesn’t sit well with me.
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That’s why I watch the swifts and the birds. I imagine Stephen up there with them, or on top of Everest or swimming with dolphins. For me he’s free to do all the things he would love.
My new daily saying is make him proud. I’m doing my best to show him I’m doing okay x
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It is very hard to let go when you don’t have any closure
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Hi @WendyL and thank you for posting.
I’m coming to the end of my first two years of mourning and I can testify to the excruciating pain of losing someone precious. I can also acknowledge the additional suffering I’ve inflicted on myself as a direct result of clinging to something that no longer exists in the physical world. I have no wish to carry this suffering forward into year three but I know it will continue if I keep holding on. So, I’m trying to let go of the familiar physical form my wife used to have and identify with the unfamiliar spiritual being she has become.
It might be different for others, but I believe my challenge is to find a new way to love my wife and feel loved by her in a world where she is physically absent.
The answer, if there is one, is to keep trying different things until you find something that works for you.
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