My husband passed away 2 weeks ago now. How can it have been such a short time but also now feel like a lifetime ago…Doing things just isn’t the same without him.
I carried on with our family trip to Skegness with our youngest two and two of our grandchildren, as the older children thought it would do us all good still. I’m miserable, all I can think about is the things he was missing and would have loved. I’m wishing the time away but have no idea why as it doesn’t change the fact that he is no longer here
I’m so sorry. I lost my husband 3 months ago and completely understand what you mean when you say nothing feels the same. We try to do things to cheer ourselves up but they can make you feel even sadder. Sending you and your family love and strength.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband passed just over a month ago and I am alone at home now. I feel the same as you describe. It’s very difficult too when you have your home, and for you family which you have created with your husband, but now things just seem to have no meaning or pointless, not much matters at the moment, you just want them back. I have this, various moods and thoughts constantly changing throughout the day and night. I think this is where we pull our inner strength to the front though. We can do this, we have to do this, to carry on. For that moment we have to take control even if it’s momentarily. Yep, they are never coming back, yep we will never see them again, we now have to continue without them by our side. But we can do it, we do it for them and us, we carry on as we know they would want us to. That is our inner strength I feel, to carry on surviving. And yes I fully appreciate that 5 minutes later we are then asking why, how, what will I do without them, but then once again when you need that strength to carry on, you will find it. This is how I am coping, and keeping busy and chatting out loud to Keith around the house, although so far it is a one sided conversation! I have his funeral this Friday, so I may feel completely different about things when I get back to our home 200 miles away. But we take each day step by step, but keep that inner strength going when we need it. Sending you hugs
@emwood18 I’m very sorry for your loss. My partner of 25 years died in January and you’re right, doing things without her here isn’t the same. I cared for her for 3 years and now there is that adjustment of suddenly having all that free time. I get comfort from knowing we had a good life together, that we made each other happy and that we said all that needed to be said to each other. Sometimes it never feels like enough but I tell myself that I was so lucky to have her as my partner and that she trusted me to have her back over the last 3 years. One of the saddest times was a week or so ago when I’d finalised her affairs and realised there was nothing left to do for her now.
I am able to fill some of my days, have started volunteering for 1 day a week and think about what she would have said to me about moving on - slow steps, take time to breathe and grieve and to look after myself. Some days I wish the clock would move faster and the house can feel very empty, but she wouldn’t want me to waste my life just sitting around feeling sad. Easier said than done I know, but I try. Friends seem to have come and gone since her funeral but I’m lucky to still have a core number of people who keep an eye on me and who are always there to talk to. I wish you all the best moving forward. You will find some good support and help on this forum.
I am so sorry for your loss. I feel exactly the same. My husband passed away suddenly on Friday, and I am devastated. Everything feels wrong. There’s a very big hole where he should be. Sending lots of love. X
There is the shock first, you need time, then the grieving. Hope you have family and friends with you.
Thank you. It like waves. I’ll be ok one minute. The next I’m sobbing over something silly. X
Here here … u try to normalise stuff then you just feel worse
It is still early days so give yourself some time to grieve properly. Try to remember the good times which I know is hard but I am sure your lovely man wouldn’t want you to be so sad.
I think my husband thought id be ok but its much harder than i thought 4 months on. Guess after being married for 35years thats no time is it ? But i cant help being sad because i miss him … it just comes ! Xx he brought a lot to my life xx
So sorry thinking of you my partner died suddenly 4 weeks ago i came home from work and found him.Im lost its a roller coaster of emotions.Nothing feels right im going through the motions of normal life for other people.Sleeping tablets are my life line as all i can do is see how i found John,
Aw jeanett thst mustve been so hard for u ? God bless and look after yourself . But know what u mean i feel totally lost too … ive no idea where my life is going anymore ;( always seemed so clear before and now its just shattered into tiny pieces
I lost my lovely husband of 50 years 5 weeks ago. I am trying to keep busy but the worst thing is going out and coming back to an empty house. Trying to adjust to a new normal is very hard but you have your children and your grandchildren to remember those lovely memories. It is never going to be the same and it will be very hard but just take one day at a time. There will be good and bad days but treasure what you had.
I am so sorry for your loss too. My husband Lee just looked asleep when I found him, so the image I have in my head isn’t too bad, but it’s the loneliness. I have an amazing large family, but even with all of them doing so much I still feel alone. I’ve lost part of myself. It’s just over 3 weeks now since he passed. How I’ve managed I’ve no idea. I send my love. X