Went to my first line dance class last night, it was a total disaster, it was meant to be for beginners. I was the only man in a group of approximately thirty women. The instructor demonstrated the moves very quickly then the music started I felt like I was the only person in the room who didn’t have any idea what to do. Some lady’s spoke to me briefly as I think they felt sorry for me. This has knocked my confidence, So it’s back to my normal routine.
Hey at least you tried. Give something else a go maybe look up to see if there is a chatty cafe near you so you can go meet new people and see what things they are up to.
Don’t give up trying new things. This new life we have now our loved ones have passed is hard but baby steps will help.
Take care and be kind to yourself
Dont give up , go again next week .ypu know a bit more so wont feel as bad .stand at the back and do what you can .first time always the hardest .you are very brave to go , got the worst over
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Well done @Tony8 for going. Not easy to push ourselves out there. I tried line dancing some years ago. It was difficult to keep up but I just kept on and eventually I got a bit better. I think I felt silly because I couldn’t keep up but nobody really cared they were mainly concentrating on their moves. Try not to lose heart. If you want to try again do but if not you could always try something different. You’ve taken the first steps in going somewhere new where you don’t know anyone. Small steps 
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Well done for going and giving it a go . It not easy doing now things . And the first time is always the hardest. Like someone one else has said look for chatty cafes in your area. There are called talking tables where I live . I have been to one which is only held once a month. They are quite a lot near where I live . So I planning trying a new one next week
I think its great that you went. Like everyone says the first time was never going to be easy.
I’ve been to 4 friendship cafés/bereavement groups, only one felt comfortable. The people were lovely and made me feel welcome, it was at a local church. I’ll go again this week. I set off thinking, I don’t have to stay if I don’t like it and I don’t. We only need one to make us feel welcome, keep trying.
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I have been to a bereavement group this afternoon. The people there are so lovely and friendly. It was so nice just to be able to talk how I was feeling. Somehow I feel so much lighter. I met a lady who lost her husband 12 months ago . She was so positive, she told me she had counselling from a local hospice. Which had really helped her . Also a book called hug in a book. Which has really helped her I am going to try and find it
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I would have danced with you. I was a professional dancer. These boots haven’t seen the light of day for years. These are real boots not rentals. I heard you and I am sorry you had such a poor experience for your effort. The ones on the top right were made for me in Mexico.
However it is not a date. It is a dance.
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Thank you all for your comments regarding the line dancing, I believe that a new beginners course is going to start in a few weeks time, this hopefully would be for people trying it for the first time. I may give it another go.
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Hi Tony
Yes, do persevere. I’ve just started line-dancing, too. It will take a while to get into it. A beginners’ class would be great. What I’ve found useful is knowing what the dance is called and the you can find teaching videos on YouTube. Also more men seem to go to evening groups. There’s one around here that has a bar and it’s heaving on a Friday night. Good luck!
I know what you mean. Donkey’s years ago I went with my late husband to line dancing and he watched me go opposite way half beat behind everyone else felt very conspicuous. Yes too fast to learn. I tried all sorts different dancing. Well done for having another try.
Good idea doing it at home by googling line dancing. No one to care and stop it and re run