Lost my husband my soulmate nearly two months ago and I feel I am just in a foggy bubble everything going on around me but I am not part of it. Dreading Christmas I know I can spend it with my young grandkids but don’t want to spoil their day. Not really sure why I am writing on this forum when there are people going through far worse things than I am.
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Hello @Su2.
You are just as important as everyone else on here and it helps to write it down . So sorry you lost your soulmate . I lost my mum 6 months ago and I’m still going through the motions , not enjoying anything . I’m also dreading Christmas . I will be spending it with my brother and his family and i will have a smile glued on my face , but inside i will be feeling miserable . Please be kind to yourself , relax as much as you can ( although its very difficult at times .) . Sending you love and strength xx
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When I lost my husband for the first few months I felt like I was not part of the world anymore, I explained it to my family as “it was like I’d suddenly turned into an alien while everyone else had remained human”.
The world was carrying on but I felt so disconnected.
I think it’s shock and your bodies & minds way of detaching you from the the awful emotions.
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So sorry for your loss. When my husband died last November, I thought I was going mad, nothing made any sense, I was unable to make decisions or concentrate, and had physical issues too. It’s all part and parcel of grief, and the shock of loss. Take one day at a time, and if anyone offers help, take it, it’s a lonely road and we all need others. Xx
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You will get through it I had Xmas 5weeks after my husbands death but celebrated because he loved Xmas it was sad but we laughed about john and cried love annie x
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Didn’t think it could get any worse had to write a birthday card for my daughter and without thinking signed it from mum & dad spent the evening in tears. It will be two months tomorrow since I lost my soulmate and missing him is getting worse just wish the tears would stop.
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Hi Sue
I lost my husband in August and don’t k ow were the months have gone. We had a family wedding in November and that was tough. I was dreading it but I coped and was with my family. When I saw the photographs I felt as was a outer body experience as was just numb. Christmas next and all my family are going away fir 4 days. Alan loved Christmas too and we had our own traditions that he did. Just remember you aren’t alone and hope your ok. Actually I think the build up is worse than the day xx