Maxandlala2
I know.
I am exactly the same.
The days & weeks leading up to the passing of my husband has left the most horrible memories to live with.
I had hoped we would have had a longer life together!
I am truly devastated & 
I can not see a way through this with him with me.
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Caroline, Just one step at a time. Be kind to yourself. I lost my Darling wife April 2024, I still miss her but I can manage the grief a little better. I have stored some happy memories of our time together and keep them close in my mind to call on them when I am sad and need them. It helps me. Sending you a big hug like from your brother.
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Awww darling I feel exactly the same we loved each other so much , did everything together never apart X only people like us who saw the horror , my darling was 14 stone he went down to 5.5 stone can understand the unimaginable horror we had to watch people tell me to remember the good times , but I still live with the heartbreaking sights I saw I never left my darlings side , having to tell him it was ok to leave me was so hard , then having him pass in my arms all I can do love is tell you that you are not alone , my heart broke and I will never feel complete again until I’m back in my Dave’s arms x
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Heartbreaking, I am the same no friends I dedicated my life to my beautiful Dave , I was with him since I was 14 , he was my everything, I am trying so hard to carry on for me kids and grandchildren, but my life ended when he passed X take good care of yourself love x
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@Maxandlala2
Yes, it’s impossible to feel lucky… when you should have had another 30 years of happiness together. Same here… I feel distraught and cheated. We had so many hopes, dreams and plans for the future. All gone… stolen from us… and now only heartache, pain, loneliness and uncertainty
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Loneliness and grief, that’s the title of this site and so true is that. I lost my husband exactly a week after being told he had cancer which had spread everywhere, the shock was awful, the grief is beyond words but this terrible loneliness is overwhelming. My family are far away and I have no friends. My heart goes out to everyone here.
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I am sorry. There are no words to really help you or any of us. Just the assurance that there are so many of us in this lifeboat. Trying to stop each other drowning.
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Grief is hell & then comes the loniness whish is not what any of us expect. 
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It’s just over 8 weeks since he died here at home. The last day and particularly the last few hours were awful to see and I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to come to terms with that. I know he wasn’t aware, but nevertheless if I could’ve spared him that and suffered it myself, I would. We’d been together 55 years to the day. We loved each other unconditionally and though today I haven’t cried, just looking over at his photo as I sit here, I just want to be with him. I just cannot, cannot see my life going on without him. Sending caring thoughts to all in this group.
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Loneliness is here today been on my own all day just wailing another night another say the same tomorrow I have no friends just me and my husband loved being together I have children and grandchildren they just whatasp me but still another 23 hours in the day
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I lost my wife 2 weeks ago married for 55 years. I feel panic can’t breath I have support but it doesn’t help the pain
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I lost my partner of 21 years, 6 weeks ago.
From what I hear you learn to live with it.
I understand your pain. I am sorry for what you are going through
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Sheppard, my husband died 8 weeks ago. Like you and your partner, we’d been together for 55 years. I’m raw with grief. I just cannot believe he’s no longer here. My heart is in tatters. We did everything together. Relied on each other for everything, what I couldn’t do, he did. What he couldn’t do, I did.
Coming on to this site will help you, I think. It’s not exactly a comfort to know that others are grieving, but it does help to know the feelings you’re having are similar to others. Be kind to yourself. My heart goes out to you.
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Sheppard, I lost my husband in January, wed been together 40 years. Nothing or no one can take away your pain, its your grief, your heart thats broke . I have also had the feelings of panic and fear , if im at home its ok, but I have to work really hard when im out to cover my feelings. I try to focus on something positive we did together, and tell myself its ok to feel like this, and know that when im home I can let those tears out. It is so hard, but those moments of panic seem to be becoming less frequent. Sending you big hugs.
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Thankyou. We met when we 16 and just stayed together. I feel sharing with someone who’s hurt is understood does help thanks
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We met when I was 19. I lost my mum in 2022, my dad in 2023 but nothing hurts like the loss of Martin. I thought I knew what grief felt like but hus death just broke me. I will get stronger I know, because thats what hed want, but I also know it will take time. Im taking a day at a time, some days an hour at a time. I will get there xx
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Hi Sheppard I lost my beautiful husband nearly 2 weeks ago gosh the pain is the same can’t breath pain in my heart wailing all day people text how are you I say the same as yesterday and tomorrow I need him I can’t do this he only every worried about me wouldn’t let me do anything even in the hospice he would say look after my wife the silence is deafning in our home cannot focus on tv we did that together when family on here just want them to go yet I’m lonely just want to be on my own and cry x
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Maxandlala2, I am so sorry for your loss. Just let those tears come, do what you need to do, if thats just sitting staring at the wall do it. I think the shock of losing the person you loved the most is something you can never get over. Im hoping it becomes easier to bear with time. I try to justify my feelings of despair and sadness by saying that the more you love, the more it hurts. I am just doing what I need to get thru each day, somedays are harder than others. Nothing anyone can say will ease your pain, but im sending you hugs and hope you are able to find some peace xx
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Sheppard I saw this some time ago. “Time does not heal a heartache, nor stop a silent tear, or take away the memories of one we held so dear.” For me that is so true. I hold on to those happy memories as hard as I can. The other 2 are the price of the 52 wonderful years I had with my Darling wife. I am starting to be able to manage the first two a little better after just over a year, the happy memories help, yes they bring a silent tear but it seems to make things a bit easier. One Step at a time, be kind to yourselves, eat properly and remember you can always come on here for a chat, rant or just a ramble like me, I find that it helps.
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