Hi, good morning, good afternoon, good evening or good night. To who ever is reading this.
So we have made it through another week of heart break, and it’s Saturday.
The house is clean and ready for the family and friends, who will not come. All the empty promises at the funeral. You make excuses for them, they live a long way away, they have there own lives to live. It has been days,weeks or months since you last saw any of them, yet you still hope for that knock on the door. You think about phoning them,but you have done that the last few times,and you don’t want to pester people. You lose even more confidence in your self and the one person who you can trust and talk to is not here.
We are not alone,we have this site so please rant or ramble as much as you need to. Take care please
You are so right, it’s so lonely at the weekends. Like probably most here, I don’t want to pester people and if the phone rings, I rush to get it out of my pocket, only to find it’s either a scam or someone trying to sell me something.
To be fair to family and friends, they do have their own lives to live and most live a long way away.
Having said that, Jackie’s cousin in Wales, has been a godsend to me, checking in on me most days. She lost her husband in 2017 so knows what we all are experiencing.
It’s the physical contact I miss most, not seeing some on video calls. I relish the thought of a hug, but that rarely happens 
Hello Nightwish!
Well you have said I think what everyone else is thinking. Yes the phone never rings or no one comes to the door. I just feel I’m here as a convenience now just someone who will look after the grandchildren when needed- apparently my son has nominated me as the go to grandparent, a trusty neighbour who can be relied on to keep an eye on things while other neighbour is away and someone to be there for my sister who I look after and has mild learning difficulties (though the last I don't see as a convenience). Yes I make the excuses too everyone is busy getting on with their livesetc. Two years in for me and there are still days when you wonderwhat is the point`? Take Care.
Yes what is it about weekend’s? If nothing is planned you can get a bit fed up with your own company. Miss the one you’ve lost being by your side. After 6yrs since i lost my amazing husband i occasionally still get waves of sadness. Luckily i have got a wonderful family and friends who are very supportive.
I couldn’t have put it better myself Nightwish1. That is exactly how it is. Empty promises especially at the funeral. Friends and family promise to call but they don’t. I lost my husband 16 weeks ago and I miss him so much but life obviously goes on for other people. Ours however will never be the same.
@Nightwish1 so true. I also find texts and whatsapps a bit of a cop out. They send what is obviously a “duty” message so often and that is it. The lack of human contact is really hurtful.