Loneliness!

How do you deal with the loneliness! I sit here night after night alone! The house is completely silent, so silent! The house feels so dark, cold & quiet! The loneliness is suffercating!

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Yes i agree with you, its been 11 weeks now since I lost my beloved husband to cancer, we were together for 22 years, after he retired from the army after 24 years we bought our forever home in November 2022, we had so many plans and wanted to fix the house up and go on our dream holiday in a few years.

Now Im all alone in the house, my life has been turned upside down and I struggle everyday without him, ive not stopped crying since he went. I only had 4 weeks with him from the diagnosis.

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I agree the loneliness is hard to take. As if the death of a loved one wasn’t enough, the after effects only grind you down even more.
Take care x

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Im the same i lost my beautifull wife on xmas eve to cancer we only had 12 weeks from diagnosis.
Since then its been like torture everyday the pain is unbelievable but i keep busy in the day its night time thats worse the silence in the house where it used to be constant talking and laughing is really hard to take we can only hope it will get a bit better with time so sorry for your loss

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My partner died on the 27th of December, I came over to Italy for his funeral and have stayed with his mom. I can’t stay here indefinitely and I am also in the middle of a degree. I am terrified of going home on my own, just the thought of being alone in the house, then having to sort out his things.

I don’t know what to do, if I could just stay here I would, but I have no legal right to stay in Italy without him. I don’t really care about my degree anymore but I need to sort out the house and pay bills. It was our house and now the thought of it fills me with dread.

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@MickUK Words of truth! Their passing is just the first heartbreak! What comes after feels just like torture!
Sending you hugs x

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@Poppet1973 Nothing prepares you for this! I still cry every day & ask why multiple times a day! Our lives changed forever & not through choice!
Sending you hugs xx

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@Jimstrummer Sorry for your loss! As horrible as it sounds its nice to know your not on your own struggling with the loneliness at night! It’s devestating to think of us all, all alone feeling this way, far to many of us in fact suffering this loss!
Sending you hugs xx

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@JonnyBadger I totally understand, I feel the exact same! Nothing really matters & I don’t really care about anything! The house is not a home without them but we have to keep facing the days!
Sending you hugs & hope you find the strength xx

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