Its been over 2 and a half years since losing my mum.I looked back on some of my posts from the 1st Christmas to the 2nd and now the third.I was in such a dark place.In some ways i feel shame from how i felt at the time but then i think about what was happening during that time.Its ok to struggle, losing your mum in my opinion is one of the worst things you can go through,If you are struggling i just want to let you know it does get easier it might not feel like it now but it does.All the emotions you feel are completely normal because youve just lost your mum.Its such a shock but You will be ok even when it feels like you wont.I cant say the pain will disappear but youll make new memories and your mum will always be part of those memories.Just because she’s not here doesn’t mean shes not with you.
Thanks for sharing, after a tough day I needed to hear/read something like this 
Thanks @StarHeart this will be my first Christmas without my mum. She’s been gone just over 3 months now. I miss her so much it’s causing me physical pain. I don’t know what to do with myself and how to sit and be and even vaguely accept the fact she’s not here. I know in time it may get easier, although I’ll never stop missing her. That thought makes me so sad. That I’ll yearn for her for the rest of my life 
how do you cope with that? Xx
Hi woo4
Im so sorry for your loss and i hope you have a strong support system.I think the 1st and 2nd Christmas in my opinion are the worst and the hardest.My first Christmas, my mother was still alive but her chances of surviving weren’t good.Then the first christmas after she was gone i didn’t cope well. My advice would be just take it a day at a time or even an hour at a time.The hardest thing is christmas doesn’t dissappear, you can’t get away from it.life stops for you but life goes on for everyone else.Which is really unfair.Everyone says christmas is just one day but i don’t agree with that as the run up to Christmas day is still Christmas.I think if you want to celebrate Christmas day that’s fine but its also ok to just treat it as a normal day or to just make it a day of remembering your mum and what you loved and miss about her.The physical pain i understand and i still feel that today and i still can’t believe that my mum is gone.Just remember whatever emotion your feeling is normal and everyone has a different journey through grief. Its only been just over 3 months for you since you’ve lost your mum.Which is no time at all and your probably still in shock and in so much pain but in time things will start to get a little easier. Just be kind to yourself and know you won’t always feel like this.
Thank you so much for your supportive message 