my husband died on the 21st july i’m deverstated
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Oh I’m sorry, such a new loss. I bet you don’t know what to do with yourself. The early days are so raw and everything that needs to be done can be overwhelming. I hope you have family, friends to help you.
Take the days hour by hour, do what needs to be done one step at a time.
This is a good site to be on for support as we know what it feels like. We are all on individual journeys but we understand.
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thank you for your kind words.the funeral is in 2 weeks time but i just want to die and be with him,we don’t have many friends as we were content to just be togeather for 47 years ,familly not near by,so glad i have found this site
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Bless you. It’s hard and very common to want to die to be with them. I remember how I wanted to die as the pain was too much to bare but you do get through it. It does get easier.
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Hi, as @Ali29 says, it’s very common to want to die and be with our loved ones. I lost my dear husband 28 weeks ago and desperately wanted to be with him. If I am honest, I still do at times when the pain is so intense but, I take one day at a time and keep busy and go out. I talk to him a lot, look at photographs and think about our wonderful life together.
It is a very lonely and dark journey and some days are worse than others. I have had some counselling which has helped.
It’s very early days for you, my very best wishes x
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We are kindred spirits. I am 8 weeks along. Married 50 years and whilst Norman had a lot of social friends I was mostly focused on him. 50 people at the funeral. Family is not near. I have done all the admin that you have to do. I found registering his death very traumatic. We are here for you and your brain will be mush for a while. Mine still is. You should have seen the mess I made of paying in two cheques by app this morning. Love and hugs . Sandraxx
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
My husband passed away just over two weeks ago.
Take each day as it come or even hour by hour that is all you can do.
People on here are really good at supporting each other x
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I so feel for you so . I know the first week is the worse . You are in shock and disbelief. It’s such a big loss to your life. My big hugs to you
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@Pudding 6 months for me tomorrow and my brain is still mush. It’s quite frustrating. Conversation stops half way through as lose the trail of thought. People’s names are a nightmare. Death and menopause, I have no chance! 
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It is how you feel at first to die and be with them . I fully understand that but try and work through everything you need to do and ask for support from your family and friends
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At least I am well past the menopause.
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My husband died on the 21st july also age 54 it so hurts 