Loosing my mum to cancar

Hi all

Im new to this and im just wanting to vent and get some help.

Im fully struggling with knowing that im loosing my mum to cancer, shes only recently been told shes got lung cancer and she refusing help as she feels like the chemo is only going to make her suffer more and she doesnt want any of us to watch her suffer more ( i am her youngest of 5 girls) shes only been given a few months at max and im fully struggling to come to terms with it.

Ive never been close with my mum as she wasn’t the best at bringing me up becuase all of her attention was on my sister who had special needs and who is down syndrome I dont resent this because I always knew she needed more support then me and i had a great god mother and sisters that made up for this.

Im struggling becuase I wish I had more time to make things better n change that we wasn’t close i actually feel like i need her more then ever and I know that is selfish but I wish we had an other year with her to make better memories and im scared that when she dies that me n my sisters will not be part of each other’s life’s ad much ad we are now.

She’s my mum and I need her and im fully scared of whats going to happen next. Im trying to act normal around my childern as they are young but im finding my self crying all the time and not be able to explain to them is hard my friend is moving in with me to help n support me which im greatful for but im just a mess and have no idea what to say or do hence why im here, been told talking to strangers helps with the grief and helps support n gives good advice. So im hopefully that you can share your stories and advice with me to get me through what I can only describe as the worst and hardest and awful time in my life

Thank you in advance

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Hi Vee. I am so sorry about your mums diagnosis. My mum was diagnosed in Feb, she did have chemo but became so unwell that the last 7 months were torture. I know you want your mum to fight but it might be that she has a better quality of life without it so that you have time to make some worthwhile memories- I promise you will need those soon. Try to support each other and I’m sure you and your sisters will need each other on this journey. I wish you all the best.

I’m sorry I have no great advice.

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Thank you

I just hope it went stay close in the long run. I fully get why she doesnt want it but I just dont want her to leave any of us this soon, I can imagine how shes feeling and im fully scared for her

But thank you x

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Hi

My mam had lung cancer my 2 sisters also died of cancer as well as my father but your mam is does love you as well as you all same way you love your children but this nasty disease is hard to fight she really needs all her strength to fight it she has nothing to loose to give it a go as for your sisters when it’s right you all reunite in the memory of your mam so sorry hope all goes well for you all try and be strong if am struggling loosing my wife a week ago heartbreaking emptiness but I know she would want me to be happy any not to be sad but it’s very early days I miss her so much am broken to pieces but will try and find the strength to try and move forward because she will be watch over me to give me the strength to carry on as will my mum and sisters father God be with you all