Losing a parent and the Struggles Involved

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I have never met my mum and dad. My grandma was my mum and brought me up for the first 23years of my life. However she was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2019 and sadly died in March 2019. The last few years of her life when i nevber knew there was anything wrong with her i always said to her that when she died i wanted to go with her, that i would be lost with her and i would struggle to much. She always told me to grow up and that i would be fine. I really wish i had been and was the truth is i havent been fine.
Before her death i was diagnosed Anxiety and Depression. After her death diagnosed Complex PTSD, Atypical Autism and Foetal Alcohol Syndrome.
This was excaberated by people taking advantage, physically financially and sexually abusing me. I just wish i had her back so that things would get easier.

That is the short version of whats went on and how i feel

Due to the financial abuse i am really struggling with a number of things and could do with some help and advice irgently

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Hi @trent1996, I’m sorry for the loss of your grandma.

Thank you for sharing your feelings and experiences with us - it sounds like things have been a real struggle for you. Reading your post I’m wondering are you getting any counselling or support from mental health services? If not, this is something you might want to talk about with your GP.

There is help out there for people who have been financially abused. Moneyhelper’s guide lists some organisations that you might want to contact for support.

Take good care and please do keep reaching out to us here.

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Hi Trent, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. It’s sounds like to have been through alot on top of dealing with that. The only thing I can think of is to ring Samaritans or talk to your GP about possible therapy should that be of any interest. I lost my mother in November and it’s been difficult since so my thoughts are with you.