Losing a parent

I am new to this page I lost my Mum last November I am totally lost and numb x Plus I lost My Dad 12years ago


I lost my dad in February and every day I feel like I’m living in a simulation…like it can’t be real…it can’t have actually happened. I feel like I’m walk round with a hole in my head and no one can see it! Just a constant desperation and pain inside and wanting to just stop and scream at the top of my lungs.


Dear @Caca

I am sorry to hear of the recent loss of your mum and the loss of your dad 12 years ago. Grief is a horrible journey of emotions, it is a rollercoaster ride with good days and bad days. All of which is normal. Grief is a journey to be taken at your pace. It is not a race. Everyone has a different grief journey.

There are resources by Sue Ryder which may be of help to you at this time.

There is a useful Grief Guide that contains information to help you understand and cope with your bereavement and grief. When you feel ready, it would be worth having a look at it.

It might be helpful for you to book and appointment with your doctor to let them know how you feel and to see how they can support you if you have not done so already. You may wish to consider one to one Counselling. Sue Ryder offer free online Bereavement Counselling which you may be interested in. It would be worth having a look at it.

There is also a blog on Losing a Parent which may be of help and support to you along with Stages of Grief .

There is a Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS. This is helpful for family and friends too.

You are still in the early stages of grief of losing your mum and it is understandable that you feel lost and numb. All of us here can identify with the way you are feeling having lost loved ones. These emotions sadly are part of the grieving process.

There is an organisation called AtALoss that has useful resources and information for Bereavement support. On their website if you look at Bereavement Services and go down to Location, you will find South Lanarkshire listed.

You need to be gentle with yourself and take one day at a time. Keep reaching out here, you are not alone, we are all here for you.

Take care of yourself.

Peppers xx

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I know how you feel. I lost my mam 6 years ago and my dad five months ago. I just about coped with my mam’s death as I had my dad to care for but losing my dad has knocked me sidewards. The grief I built up about my mam is all coming to the fore now and I can’t cope either. You are not alone in your feelings, sometimes I feel I am going mad I’m totally lost also. Keep talking hopefully some day this must get easier.

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You are not alone with these feelings. I feel the same way too. Hopefully one day these horrible days will get less and joy will come into our lives again. take care

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Sorry for your loss. I lost my precious Mum last Sept & its as if it was yesterday. There are times I sit or walk around in a daze, not knowing what to do or think!
She was my rock, my ‘go to person’.
Grief sucks, but we all need to just take each minute, day at a time. Do whats right for us, let those feelings out. Try & live our lifes to honour our loved ones who haved sadly passed.
My thoughts & prayers are with you.

Thank you, having a bad day today, but hopefully I’ll get through it. As an only child my mam and dad were my constant and I like everyone else miss them so much. Take care and thank you for your thoughts.

Sorry to hear you are having a bad day, it is natural & to be expected. You will get through this. We are here to support each other. X