Lost my dad last April and my mam January this year, been one of the hardest times of my life and feel so alone
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Hello @Girl2026
Losing both parents in a short space of time is so difficult. I lost my mum in December 2024 and my dad in March 2026. Although my parents had been divorced for many years I have found losing them both in a short amount of time so very hard. This evening has hit me again and I have been full of emotion again.
I hope you find this online community helpful - for me it has helped me lots since I lost my mum and again now I have lost my dad.
Grief can be a lonely time - be kind to yourself.
Take care and keep using this online community to help you. X
I lost both of my parents within 6 months of each other too and feel totally lost, like an abandoned child. Twelve months on I still find it hard to come to terms with the fact I’ll never ever see them again. I can’t see how I’ll ever be truly happy and positive about life ever again. I’m in a constant state of feeling miserable while trying to work full time and go through the motions in the hope that one day I might feel normal again.
Sorry I can’t help you but just know that we are all here for each other, able to chat about how we feel and know it’s normal to feel how we do. Grief is a rollercoaster of emotions. One day the highs of all the good memories will overcome the lows 
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Lost both parents 4 months apart, they both got terminally ill at the same time. Although it was quicker for my Mum and she passed first, then 4 months later my Dad.
Now 4 months after my Dad, my partner has now reached the active dying stage after a sudden terminal illness.
I feel like I’ve not had time to grieve
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I feel like I’ve not had time to grieve ….. anyone! I’ve been living in a state of fight/flight for so long, dealing with the NHS and palliative admin, errands, death admin, and probate for both parents.
Dealing with the NHS and palliative admin and errands for my partner. He’s choosing to die at home (my parents both passed in a hospice), and passing at home is no picnic.
Several different teams to be in constant contact, and the NHS is truly dire, there’s no staff! It’s literally like 3 workers having to cover 5 boroughs! I had to do the night sitting myself yesterday (partner lives alone, only a 2 year relationship) as there were no sitters available.
At least in hospices, everything is in one place: medication, food, cleaning, beds, 24 hour staff - even though they are understaffed and overworked.
Hospice at home is a different kettle of fish, it’s truly awful. I would never choose that.
So since January 2025, I’ve been living in the immediate, the emergent, fast decision making.
I think the cumulative grief of all three will hit me at once.
Yes, yes I know I need self care, etc, look after myself, be kind to me. If I had a penny for every time someone said that, I would be richer than Elon Musk!
I wonder if doing all the errands IS my way of coping, ironically. Keeping on top of it, so I don’t feel helpless - being given the hard truth for three people consecutively, that their illnesses are untreatable and I will never see them again one day.
It’s my way of handling the bad news, which only has one outcome, the worst one.
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I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom on May 4, 2026 and my Dad on July 1, 2025. I was close to both my Mom and Dad. I was the primary care giver for both of them. I was the POA for my Dad which was extremely stressful. I have a very supportive husband. My sister was a big issue when my husband and I were taking care of my Mom and Dad. The last several years have been some of the most stressful times. It’s been extremely hard dealing with the rollercoaster of grief. Some days are better than others, I know that my Mom and Dad are proud of me and my husband.
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My Mom passed on May 4, 2023 not 2026.
I’ve lost both or my parents in 3 years. I find it hard to believe they have gone. I’d give anything to have them back. It’s very difficult. I hope you can find the strength to battle on through the grief. It’s very difficult. 
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