I lost my dad in April last year and my mum in August this year. My. Mum died on my birthday.
My dad was expected and had become so frail. My mum, whilst terminally ill, was far quicker than expected. She was the one I turned for a hug, a chat and to share memories of dad. I am finding the grief hits at random moments but hits hard. It feels good to share.
Hello @Zoemel,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are finding your grief hits you hard at unexpected times. I’m so sorry to hear about your parents. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to have a read of this Sue Ryder Article: https://www.sueryder.org/how-we-can-help/bereavement-information/support-for-yourself/parent-loss
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
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Hi Zoemel. It’s awful losing your parent. It’s as you said, those little day to day things like a chat or hug you miss so desperatly after they’ve gone. I lost my mum just over 2 months ago, and I’d do anything to have her come back and give me a hug. We talked every day. I can’t believe she won’t send me any more messages. I keep reading through some of our old txts and it’s painful I wont have her love, support and comfort anymore, when I still need it. I’m glad it feels good for you to share - I’ve found it helps on here because you’re talking to like-minded people who understand. I’ve heard grief comes in waves, and I think it does - as you said when it comes it hits hard. For me, it’s always there, but sometimes I’m drowning in it, sometimes my head is just above water. Take care, we all understand x
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