Losing mum

I lost my mum in 2011 and I’ve been living with the trauma ever since I sometimes hear my mum shouting for help I think am I to blame did I do something wrong

Dear Sunflower2022,

I am sorry that you lost your mum at such a young age and that this has been such a traumatic experience for you. I am sure that you did nothing wrong and that your mum would not want you to burden yourself with thinking that you somehow are to blame. for her death. It is very brave of you to have come to this site and to share how you are feeling. If you read other people’s post you will find that you are not alone in how you feel. Have you ever had any bereavement support either from family or friends, or from a health professional? If there is no one you can talk to, I would suggest you contact Cruse Bereavement. Services. They have a phone line where you can talk with a trained volunteer: https://www.cruse.org.uk/get-support/
Don’t struggle on your own, There is help available for you.
xx Jo60plus

Thank you I have been in touch with cruise bereavement but I felt silly because I thought they were only there to help you deal with the trauma when it first happened

I am so glad that you contacted Cruse. I hope you will benefit from the support they offer. No matter how long ago we lost a loved one, if we are still affected by it and struggling to work through our grief it is not silly but very sensible to seek and accept help to work through our grief. Thanks for taking the time to let me know.