My dad passed away 2 weeks ago he was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer 6 weeks ago. I feel there wasn’t enough time to process what was happening and then he was gone. I believed dad would have some sort of treatment it was too advanced and he was referred to palliative dad went down so quickly he was 66 I was with him when he passed away in a hospice. I watched him deteriorate so quickly He had just retired and was looking forward to doing more traveling. Dad loved to travel experience new things. I feel so cheated a hole so big i have no idea how to fill it. I’m heartbroken. I just didn’t imagine this was it for my dad the heartbreak is something else. I’m struggling to comprehend all of this and how rapid it progressed and how much the cancer took from him. Will I ever recover from this? Will I ever fill this hole so huge. I miss you dad.
Hi @Lshuggy,
Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry about your dad - I can hear the heartbreak in your words.
You are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category. But there you can connect with other members who are living with grief after losing a parent.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.
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Our Losing a parent page talks through some of the emotions you may be experiencing
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
Take good care,
Seaneen
Hi Lshuggy, I’m so sorry to hear this. I lost a parent to cancer too recently and I was devastated (it was my mam). She also recently retired, loved to travel and missed out on a lot of experiences. It blew my mind how quickly cancer can take over someone’s body.
It’s been a few weeks, I don’t think I’ve recovered but I am coping a bit better than I was initially. Grief is such a weird feeling, but I’m learning more about myself and my grief every day. I’m finding this forum to be really supportive, do keep posting if you ever need a vent or advice. Sending you big hugs in the meantime.
Hi sleepy bear. Im soo sorry to hear about your mum. Losing a parent is absolutely heart breaking. The grief is unbearable. Not being able to pick up the phone say hi how ya dong hear dads voice waffle on down the phone and dad would definitely waffle he allways had lots to say he was a busy bee planning his next trip . Bowls club. I remember saying to him aint u a bit young for bowls dad he said its about the experience sweet meeting new people What I would give to hear that voice feel that hug. Dads passing was so quick from diagnosis im still struggling to catch up talking about him in past tense doesn’t seem real. Big hugs too you xx
This sounds so similar to what happened with my lovely Dad. He was in and out of hospital for months and was only told of his stage 4 cancer diagnosis as an afterthought, to which, as his daughter, I had to relay to him.
So disrespectful of a man who was so full of life, a kindly gentleman who was younger than his years and so grateful for life. What has happened to this world??