I lost my dad 10 months ago very suddenly, one minute he was here, the next he was gone and it has been a very hard thing to deal with.
4 months after my dad passed, my (now) fiance’s sister got married. I knew it wasn’t going to be an easy day as a couple of weeks before the wedding I found out that the father/daughter dance was going to be the song that I wrote on paper and put into his coffin. My fiancé straight up told his sister and all hell broke loose. Long story short, the song wasn’t changed. The dance turned into a literal nightmare for me. The song started playing and I found myself stood in a crowd of people balling my eyes out. I was trying to get through but the physical pain of hearing that song brought my to my knees, it felt like someone hard torn my heart out of my chest. It’s never been spoken since…
Anyway, now its my turn. We recently got engaged and are getting married next year. Every time I think about my dad not being there to see me get married I start to well up and get a lump in my throat. I want to do things as a tribute, but I don’t want to make it a sad occasion. I’m hoping in a years time it will be easier, because I don’t feel like I’m dealing with his passing very well. There are days I won’t get out of bed and I’ve got into trouble with work. So my question is, does anyone have any tips? Any ideas on what could work as a tribute without making it sad?
