Losing my dad then my mom

I lost my dad 2 years ago my mom was there to help me get over my grieve but now my mom passed less than 2 months ago I have no one to help me with my grieve, my mom had a stroke and was in hospital for 9 weeks and the last 11 days of her life I never left her alone I lived at the hospital with her I was perfied about her dying alone but watching her die and her body giving in she had no food or drink for 11 days her whole body changed right in front of me so instead of happy memories I have the image of her in hospital fading away I’m struggling to come to terms with having no parents now .

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Hello Jacqueline.D,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the passing of your parents and how you are feeling, that is so sad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

You may also find the following Sue Ryder resources helpful:

  • Our Bereavement information pages
  • Our Online Bereavement Support, which includes our free online bereavement counselling which is held via video chat, our Grief Guide which has interactive tools to help you cope with grief, and Grief Coach, where you can receive personalised support via text

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


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my deepest condolences. all I can say is it seems you were a loving family. all we can do in the end is be grateful we had that.

I am with the same story … down to the passing. after five years, it is less now. I shut the image from my mind. but it is not easy. my central nervous system could take very little after I lost them both. I hibernated. I attended grief classes immediately after. those strangers were the people I felt closest to … they and I were on the same harsh island.

it is VERY hard. but you have no choice but to go through it. two of my friends who helped me in 2016 they died too now, in 2020, 2022.

it is all so awfully hard.
let grief have its way with you. i.e., letting Nature take its course.

again, I am so sorry. :heartpulse:

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