I came on here in a hope it would make me feel better and it has not done that at all tonight i feel so lost i have nobody to talk to about how i feel i lost paul 5 years ago and it still hurts he was my best friend , my husband , my lover and the love of my life my whole world the night he passed away my heart shattered and i have not felt the same since i miss his voice when we first got together he worked shifts so one week i could see him the next i did not but he rang me everynight and the sound of his voice would make me very happy but now there is no voice at all and that is what i miss so much the male voice that would make me feel happy and safe this is such a cruel world we live in that can leave one person so devestated
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I’m sorry you’re not finding the community helpful at the moment, @Sassychic.
Although nothing can replace phone calls with your husband, if you did find hearing a voice more helpful or comforting, I wanted to share this with you. The Silver Line provides support, information, friendship and advice for anyone aged over 55 who may feel lonely or isolated. It was set up by Esther Rantzen after the death of her husband.
The Silver Line is open 24 hours a day, every day of the year. You can call them on 0800 4 70 80 90.
Take care 
Tried that but they could not help me
I know it’s awful to have no way back to the happiness we once had. For me it is just coming up to 6 months since my amazing partner died suddenly, and right now I am feeling terribly angry, feeling cheated out of the future we had planned together.
Do you have videos or recordings of his voice? I know it doesn’t compare to the real thing, but I would hope it might bring you some comfort at least.
We are all trying to make our way through this any way we can x
Wow that is not 5 years and the pain is not any better I have long and hard way to go then, that’s something I didn’t want to hear I lost my partner 26 days ago to womb cancer we were together 45 years, I came on here a few days ago to help me get through it. It has help a bit taking about it but it does not stop the pain and the want to have her here I miss her voice her jokes it’s so empty in the house without her all around the house is all her stuff and clothes things she bought for the house it’s just one big reminder of her it’s so painful she have left a big hole in my life am not sure I can cope without her. Jackie was my whole world I have been with her most of my life
Iam so sorry for your loss am sure you here this from everyone and it doesn’t help I know you just want him back do you have family and did you have any children?
Hi Tom
Yes I do have two brothers but I have had this from them they don’t need to know how I feel , one of my brothers has just found out that I am not coping at all I have no children so my life is very empty at the moment I do not have any friends as I feel its to hard to make them and its easier not to then I cannot get hurt which I know I will .
Hi
I wish I did have some recordings of him but he was the one doing all the video’s for family so he was never on them .
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I’m sorry that you don’t have any recordings. Nobody else can compare to our loved ones and I know that nothing can ever fill the emptiness that they leave behind x
Wow you are making me feel sad now I just want to hug you and take your pain away I think we are all going through it on here as I lost Jackie only a few weeks ago and it kills me every day waking up the same sadness. I have too grown up daughters which help but it’s not the same as your partner being here
You may not want to make friends with people because you don’t want to get hurt again but what other choice have you if you don’t it will just get worse. But at least you are taking on here which is something
I am 21mths down this road. The loss doesnt get easier but you learn to cope better.
I still miss my husband every day and he was my absolute world but I try to view it as I am living my life for him as he can’t live his any more
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Hi Tom
I let someone in as a friend and they stopped talking to me and it hurts all over again and I do not know what to do I feel it is easier not to let people in then it cannot hurt me this is making me cry
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Hi Tom
Thank you for your reply I did not want to make you sad that is the last thing I want to do to anybody it’s my problem and I thought talking on here would help but unfortunately I cannot say it on here but it has hurt me and I cannot tell why which is the worst I wish I had someone to talk to about this then I might feel better
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