Losing my husband

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I have woke up today at feeling very low i get told i am to chatty well yesterday i went out for a.meal with my lovley nephew he takes me out every fortnight other wise i would not go out at all except for shopping when we where out yesterday i actually listened to myself and realised hiw chatty i am my nephew never says anything to me about how chatty i am but yeaterday made me realise this and now it has made me scared to ask the qeustion am i to chatty because i am frightened he will say yes then my other coping mechanism will kick in that i will go quite and not want to talk for fear of upsetting or annoying anyone its just how i am so now i am scared to find out this is horrible you are dealing with your loss and now rhis on top of it i really do not know what to do i think that is why i do not want to go out into this world then i cannot get hurt

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I’m chatty, i don’t see anything wrong in it?

I’ve been with people who are naturally quiet and if I didn’t chat we’d be sitting there in silence.

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Hi @Sassychic ,I am happy for you atleast you went out with someone & had a good time yesterday.

I suggest you keep it real,if you feel like talking please talk that maybe the only way that calms you down.

Don’t hold it,be yourself. Don’t fear judgment, I also don’t fear judgment & that’s the only way i survive, i have thought a million times on how to run away from judgment & my situation, i failed to come up with a solution, the situation we’re in chains our souls too, ,it’s only God who can help us out.

As for me I have been indoors for 3days now,i fetch water only at night. Tomorrow I plan to visit my food garden.

Yes but if people think i am to chatty that is when it goes wrong for me how do i stop bieng so chatty i only have the two mechanisams chatty or very quite and go into myself and dont speak my husband never said i was to chatty he loved me the way i was but he is not here now si what do i do

Is it wrong to be chatty? If someone says your chatty I’d take it as a compliment.

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Your right I should do but I am so sensitive always have been due to my epilepsy medcation it makes me cry and take things the wrong way all my family now this and understood me as did Paul but its all different now with paul gone I find it difficult to make friends or let people in

Nothing wrong with being sensitive, some of the most creative and caring people are creative, but your right when your partner understands you it’s hard when they are gone.

It sounds as if your nephew loves you very much, and wants to be there for you.

Let him. Don’t beat your self up over this, just be yourself - talk or not, just do what feels right.

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Hi

Yes my nephew is a wonderful young man that took over when his uncle Paul passed away he was there for me every step of the way we looked after him from bieng six weeks old when his mum had to go back to work everybody thought he was our son he spent so much time with us so we are very close more closer than auntie and nephew usually are but he is so kind and caring I know I would be lost without him