Losing my husband

Losing a partner
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I listened to the podcast tonight on this site and I did make me cry and make me feel lonely but I know since losing my husband my life has been so different without him I never gave all of this another thought I guess I never thought it would happen to us but it happens to everybody we all go through it and some cope better than others I only hope those that cope better than me maybe able to help people like me as that is what we need I have had a lot of time since my husband passed away to.think and I think kindness and kind words go.a long way to.helping people like myself I was always taught to.be kind to.my elders so now I.am older hate to.admit that but I am that people will be kind to me we can only hope with this younger generation now they dont know how to so it’s a.struggle with my younger nieghbours I do try but I find it easier not to say anything when I out or see them I never thought them crossing the road meant they dont know what to say to you although my dad passed away 3yrs ago and my stepmum lives in lockerbie which is quite far from me I cannot just pop in and see if she is OK nor does she answer her mobile phone but she has some young neighbours that are good and kind to her and for that I am eternally grateful I just wish I had the same but unfortunately I do not and the podcast made me realise that I do know how to change it as that would mean them.changing and I cannot.do.that now.can I I am glad I was brought up in the era that taught me to.respect older people I do.miss that when I first moved here my neighbours where all.lovely and spoke to.us but as time.goes.on they all go.one by one and I.miss them just to.go.and have a cup of coffee with what a shame but I now nothing stays the same it just makes me so sad we should help.and be there for one and other even if we think they are a pain in the bum remember that pain in the bum might just be your grandma and all she wants is a bit of love and understanding if it was my grandma I would be there in a shot as for.me well I suppose I would like this same to.happen to me I do miss my husband just like everybody on here does wife/ husband/partner so.we need to be kind to.one and other it’s not a lot to ask for is it not when we all.lost someone so special.to us all

Sassychic

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@Sweetlady thank you for sharing so honestly, it’s so beautiful. I never meant any hurt. Pain in the bum indeed. We can get there, you can get there, keep going x

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Hi waylan

Thank you for taking the time to read my lengthy post all of it came from my heart and I meant every word of it I know I can be a pain in the bum and to sensitive but it’s my epilepsy meds that make me so sensitive and cry a lot I did not mean anything wrong to you and I do apologise if I caused any upset you know I do take on board what people say to me and try to get out but it’s not.been easy for me just.like it would be for you or anybody on here my panic attacks make it worse especially in the supermarket I never had them.till I lost Paul he was my everything and I do.mean that after all of this I do.hope we can get passed this and maybe be sort of friends on here I look forward to your reply

Nite nite

Sassychic

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I feel like that about my neighbours too but none of them are young. After my partner died in September last year they did offer condolences and I received lots of sympathy cards, some even came to the funeral. That said, I ve hardly spoken to any of them all winter except for one couple who live opposite. It’s strange as my partner used to go out walking and chatting to all of them.