Hi
I went out today as I had ordered some stuff from m&s so went to pick it up and when sat at the red traffic lights and a young guy in his car rear ended my car I was In shock at first and then I got out off my car to check it and the guy got out off his he Admitted it was his fault and he said let’s go into m&s car.park so we did and he took picture of my bumper there was no damage but I did not check his but he gave me his phone number and sent me a text in the carpark but I was crying and in shock and felt so stupid standing there crying 
but it seems to be my natural reaction thus is one of the reasons I do not go out prefer to stay in as a couple off years ago a nice Asian gentleman hit my car with me in it and wrote it off I was on the main road and he came out of a side street he was taking me to court right up until the Friday we where due to go on the Monday and he Admitted full liability to the accident he put me through a year of hell and worry for nothing and they are still fighting it now for my claim so you can see why I stay at home all them years of driving and never having an accident then when paul is no longer here that happens .
Sweetlady
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Hello, so sorry sweetlady for everything you have been through. Losing your husband was bad enough, heartbreaking , and those car accidents didn’t help at all. I had a similar experience, my son barely hit the back bumper of this lady’s car, we had no money then no car insurance, she took us to court, I was so worried I couldn’t concentrate on anything and the day of court she didn’t show up, so the case was dismissed. I worried for nothing. I actually got sick over the stress. Sometimes I just feel better at home too, I need a few groceries but I don’t feel like going out, I get emotional over the simplest things. God bless you sweetly and for all of us who are missing our loved ones.
High light mary
I too hate going out i have to go out tomorrow and I am sat in tears writing this knowing that I have to.go to the hairdressers which is 5 mins way then I have to go to guiseley as well and I am dreading that people keep saying get out you need to go out but then it all goes wrong I have been poorly all weekend as well so that does not help I feel.this terrible loniness is never going to end for me when I just need paul he is not here nobody is here I told my nephew and he said you need to stop getting upset easier said than done what a miserable day this has been for me people do not know what they are doing to others when you have a car accident or what you have already been or going through when I had mine the Asian guys wife got in my car and said was I ok as the accident was not that bad but then this young man could see I was so distressed he got her out of my car and he got in to try and help.me as I had cracked a rib and was having trouble breathing he was so nice to me and he got my bag so.as I could get my phone he saw I was married and said did I want him to ring my husband he did not know paul.had passed away and I said through my tears oh if only you could he then realised and said he was so sorry I wish I had got his name as he was so good with me but the police.will not give me any details at all I was more worried about all the people on the pavement as I was bieng pushed towards them and could not stop it I did not want to hit anybody through a stupid man driver I was put through all that stress just like you where and I know how it feels its awful and I feel they should be the ones to pay not us so I do feel for you and I know how distressing that was for both of us sending you a great big hug 
Sweetlady
Hello sweetlady, a big hug right back at you, I wish I was the one doing your hair so we could continue talking, I was a hair dresser for 26 years. Hope all goes well for you tomorrow. God bless you 
Hi light mary 68
I would have loved that you doing my hair and talking it would be great its what.i miss the most my old hairdresser was a lady and she was great to talk to and listened to all of what I had to say I had an appointment with her when paul.passed away and I wanted to cancel.but Claire pauls care manager said to me go you need to look good for him for his funeral so she rang and told Angie and she was great with me but a couple of years ago she gave it up and I had to find a new one I found a guy hairdresser and he was ok but not as good as angie he then closed his shop and again I had to find another hairdresser I found one just 5mins from me she is ok but prefers you to go as soon as you are done and that’s my only conversation I will have that day so I go I don’t like overstaying my welcome I have been told I am to chatty never thought it was a problem till now I suppose I am like I am now I should be quite now .
Sweetlady
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Sweet lady,
I can identify with feeling vulnerable since my husbands accidental death. I realise that others don’t necessarily know my situation as I encounter some strangers. On the whole I go out either to walk alone or with a family member. I do drive but only short familiar places. Unfortunately we live in a society where others may not act the in the way we expect them to. The vulnerability was not something I expected to feel in my grief. I’ve had to rely on my family to help out with matters my husband use to do.I have learnt to relax about things more and accept the support from my family. I also have faith and lean more on God to guide me through this painful path. I pray you will come to a place where the love from God and others in your life will overcome any fears of leaving your home and leading a fruitful life. God bless Alicia 