Hi
Well I am back in bed now trying to get some sleep as I feel exhausted now I can support others on here but I am never good to myself I punish myself everyday just for surving and still bieng here I feel that I should not be here now
Sweetlady a lovely gentleman said this is what I should call myself as I made him feel a bit better but I do not think like that at all I can be kind and generous to others but not myself
Sweetlady
erous but not to myself
Dear Sweetlady,
You need to be sweet to yourself and you definitely need to stop punishing yourself.
You were a wonderful wife to your Paul, who is looking out for you from up above.
He’s patiently waiting for you in Heaven and he wants you to take good care of yourself and to be generous to yourself in the meantime.
Please start being sweet and generous to yourself, it’s important for your well-being.
Kind regards - Joe
I am struggling with guilt and regret for my taking out my frustrations on my beloved husband at times. People tell me I need to forgive myself, as he would forgive me but for some reason, I can’t forgive myself. I know he is at peace and he suffered so the last several months of his life, which is another reason that I feel so guilty. Plus trying to navigate life alone now without my best friend and soul mate. I wonder how I wake each day. Love and hugs to you and all in this Group.
Hi W, my sweet wife had a lot of problems when her mother died. It took a long time for her to come to terms with her death. One of the things she beat herself up about was the fact she left her mother to go to work and her mother died a few hours later. It didn’t matter that the doctors told us they were going to move her home the next day, no one knew she would die but that didn’t stop my wife from beating herself up about it. After talking to a priest and going to a therapist for a while she managed to forgive herself, though she had done nothing to forgive. Maybe you might benefit from talking through your feelings of guilt. I think these feelings of guilt if not dealt with tend to fester
Wishing you all the best
Tom
Hi Joe
You told me to be sweet to myself I am know good at that i can give it out to others but I am know good and taking my own advice I miss paul so.much it.hurts and that is after 5yrs it still hurts and I still miss him so much I cannot wait to be with him and then all this love I can give it all to him like I did before .
Sweetlady