Hi
I was full off what I was going to do today and I cannot do it i wanted to sort out his clothes but I cannot do it i opened the wardrobe and just stood there crying thinking how do I do this its to hard it just brings everything back and I feel such a weak person I have to find a way Round this on my own somehow stupid person that I am
Sweetlady
Dear Sarah,
You are not a stupid person!
I’m quite sure Paul would have flattened any person calling you stupid.
Sorting out the belongings of one’s loved one is incredibly hard.
Fanny’s clothes are also still in the closet.
My daughter in law took some items for other ladies in her side of the family.
I don’t want to give Fanny’s things to just anybody, everything will stay in the family.
I definitely want her things to go to ladies who do appreciate these things.
But I’m not rushing things.
Be kind to yourself!
Kind regards - Joe
Hello, I have a cousin who makes dolls that resemble people or care bears, and she wants to do one for me , in honor of my husband. She asked for something personal of my husbands, and I just can’t bring myself to letting go of anything. And I wouldn’t want a doll, maybe the bear. God bless
Hi @Lightmary68
My sister in law wanted a memory bear making using some of my husband’s clothes. A couple of weeks ago she came round to pick them up. I found it really difficult.a memory bear isn’t something I would want . I prefer to keep something more personal like his glasses. We are different. Choose something that you want.
Hello, its not me who wants a care bear, my cousin is offering to make one. I already have many pictures of my husband all over the house, I put all his personal items in a nice box. I wear his wedding ring in a necklace. Take care, God bless
Ah ok look after yourself
Oh love you are not stupid you are greaving its a very hard road we are on .give yourself time x
Sweetlady,
I gave some clothes of my most beloved husband to a charity and the rest I keep for me forever… They mean a world to me and always will be… I work hard almost every day and today I had a day off, so I talked to my friends on the phone for hours that helped me to solve many issues I must do in the next months. I’ve cried so much since the last year that I could fill in the lake close to my house that is getting low, because we need the rain so much… I still can’t sleep well, although I’m so tired that I can barely see… Good night!
Janka
Mary,
I still wear a wedding ring that is blessed from church and I’m not planning to put it down at all…
Janka
I’m also still wearing my wedding ring.
I will wear it forever and I’ll be buried with my wedding ring on my finger.
Fanny was also buried wearing her wedding ring.
Hi janka I still wear my wedding ring i will not take them off paul put them there i feel its not my place to take them off
Sweetlady
Hi lightmary
I would love a bear it would give me something to cuddle especially when you feel so low wish i know someone who did that
Sweetlady
You can order memory bears from Wakefield Hospice shop. Just have a look online.
Stealaway
Thank you for that i am going to have a look now i would love one
Thank you again
Sweetlady
Sweetlady,
as well as you I’m all alone in my house, but I have more than 70 plushies being with me for decades, so they became my real family. My dearest husband moved them over the sea for me, they are all over my house, especially my plushie rat that I’m hugging, squeezing and kissing every day and night, my biggest comfort in my loneliness. I take it with me everywhere, always with us, wherever me and my most beloved husband used to go together, even now when I’m writing this to overcome the horrible anxiety, every morning when I open my eyes. If I’d lose my rat, I’d probably die. This can only understand someone who has no family as well as me… I’m just getting up for work again to beat my anxiety eating me alive every day since my most beloved husband died…
Janka
Hello, I will always wear my wedding ring, in my heart im still married. I’ll see my husband again some day. I wear my husband’s wedding ring in a necklace. The other morning I woke up and I was holding his ring. 
…take care , God bless
