Losing my husband

I lost my husband in November last year I’m really struggling with my mental health since it happened suddenly at home he had a serious lung condition which in turn caused a cardiac arrest he was my absolute everything and I’m losing my way without him in my life I just want him back I keep texting him still hoping that he knows how much I loved him he was the only man I’ve ever truly loved and he was snatched away from me so cruelly I was truly happy with him now I’m expected to carry on but I’m finding that so hard to do even tho I’ve got loved ones support I feel alone isolated I feel I’m losing my will to carry on I wish I could turn back the time or see him one last time so I could tell him I loved him so much I miss him being at home the silence is deafening sometimes I wish I could just be with him


Hello @Sonya24 ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling like you are losing you way. I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

@Sonya24 I am so sorry for all that you are going through. I think everyone on here can relate to what you are feeling, losing our lifelong partners is so disorienting and feels as if we have lost our place in the world. I lost my darling man 13 weeks ago today after 46 years and I have days when I feel nothing matters. But I am also determined to try and make a new life for myself, its not the life I chose, but it is what he would have wanted. I go on as a tribute to the love we shared, I will carry that legacy until I am with him again. And I will be be one day, when my time comes. Just hold on, you will get through this, we have each other. Sending hugs and Love xxx


Hi Sandi I’m so sorry to hear about your husbands also passing I feel your pain it’s like drowning it’s so painful thank you for your kind words sending you a big hug also we just got to hang on in there but I know that’s so hard to do Imy thoughts are with you


Thank you @Sonya24 , we are so lucky to have had and experienced such love, that’s why it hurts so. You are with friends here, to share and find support, it really has helped me, I hope the same for you. Take good care xxx


You too Sandi xxx