Hey guys, I lost my mum last month and my husband 18 months ago and honestly feel really lost. Am trying to hold it together for my kids and my sister but feel so alone. My mum was my anchor in life, as long as she was around I knew I would get through anything. I’m so angry at how she died the system failed her in so many ways…so much anger, pain and frustration. I was just starting to see the light after my husband but am now so deep in the darkness I don’t know how to get out
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I’m right there with you apart from I’m the husband who lost his mum and now can’t connect with my wife and kids . I am so sorry you are where you are , but hold tight , be kind to yourself , if you have any idea what that means .
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@Joanne144 and @Colls10
I can empathise a little. My mum died just over a month ago. I do not feel as if I have begun to grieve, my dad died 2009 so now I am an orphan. Mum was my last family lifeline, I have cousins some distance away who love me, yet our family didn’t really have that much to do with them.
I cannot understand how you are holding things together for your families, I have none of that to navigate so am lucky in that respect perhaps.
We all just need to let out how we feel, because we are not alone, and we never should feel alone whilst we are part of this community.
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Thank you so much for your support, it’s beyond hard the days come and go and most of them I struggle to get out of bed. They blur into one, my youngest is here with me and watching her struggle through this while trying to navigate her GCSEs makes me feel humble. She’s strong and determined to make it to the other side and that gives me a little faith. Losing our anchor in life makes us question who we are…but what we need to remember is that we are who they made us, we have the tools and we are just learning to read the instruction book
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Thankyou Rupert , and so sorry you are in this place too . I don’t know how I am coping with also having my own family , but it’s testing like no other .
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Hi Joanne I’m right there with you. I lost my mum my all in 2022. My dad died a month before I was born. Mum was only parent I’ve ever known. Because of this we were closer than my other siblings. It’s still hard even now (I’m crying as I write this) but you just have to take each day as it comes. Cry scream whatever you need to do to get through each day. Stay kind to yourself. X your not alone
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