My mum passed away on the 3/01/26 and I am absolutely devastated. She had lewy body dementia and I was her carer. I was with her at the end and she was at home which I am grateful for. I just feel empty and I am never going to get over it. I am heartbroken. She was my life
I think that I used the same words when Mum died on 11th October. I was devastated and heart broken as although I worked, Mum and I lived together. I was fortunate to wfh 2 days per week and didn’t work on Fridays, so I was always with her. I am still devastated as I loved her so much. All I can say (and I never thought that I would) is that I have developed coping strategies. Someone early on told me that when they lost their Mum that they didn’t want to waste what their Mum had taught them. When I am sad, I cry. I take it one day at a time. I tell myself that Mum only ever wanted me to be happy, so I am going to try not to waste all that Mum has invested in me. I believe that she is always walking beside me and I talk to her. It is extremely early days for you. I just cried and talked it out those first few days. I learnt to just accept however I was feeling. I now try not to ‘think’ which is probably not a good thing, but it helps me at the moment. I referred myself for bereavement counselling early on as I was so distraught. I am glad that I did as I should hopefully be able to access it. Today, I returned to work - something I could not have even considered in those early days - one step at time.
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