I lost my mum 3 weeks ago she died in front of me. I miss her so much I was her carer for many years and I’m finding it all too much to deal with I wish she would come back everyday. Is anyone else feeling like this ,I got no one to talk too that is why I’ve come on a online forum hoping I’m not the only one that feels this way.
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Hello, sending condolences… it’s a hard thing to lose a parent. What you’re feeling is all very normal, there are no rights or wrongs with grief. If you read through the posts in this forum you’ll see that you are not alone. Everyone has suffered a loss and are doing their best to manage life in the aftermath. Take care xx
Dear @Gem7
I am sorry to hear of the recent loss of your mum. Grief is a horrible journey of emotions, it is a rollercoaster ride with good days and bad days. All of which is normal. Grief is a journey to be taken at your pace. It is not a race. Everyone has a different grief journey.
There are resources by Sue Ryder which may be of help to you at this time.
There is a useful Grief Guide that contains information to help you understand and cope with your bereavement and grief. When you feel ready, it would be worth having a look at it.
It might be helpful for you to book and appointment with your doctor to let them know how you feel and to see how they can support you if you have not done so already. You may wish to consider one to one Counselling in the near future. Sue Ryder offer free online Bereavement Counselling which you may be interested in. It would be worth having a look at it.
There is also a blog on Losing a Parent which may be of help and support to you along with Stages of Grief .
There is a Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS. This is helpful for family and friends too.
You are in the early stages of grief of losing your mum and what you are experiencing is normal and part of the grieving process.
There is an organisation called AtALoss that has useful resources and information for Bereavement support. On their website if you look at Bereavement Services and go down to Location, you will find Surrey listed.
You need to be gentle with yourself and take one day at a time. Keep reaching out here, you are not alone, we are all here for you. We understand the pain of losing a loved one.
Take care of yourself.
Peppers xx
Hi thank you for your kind words, it is nice to know I’m not alone and I have someone to talk too and thank you for all the information I can use to help me over the coming days and weeks I’m very grateful
You take care
Gem7 xx
Hi thank you for your kind words , it is nice to know that what I’m feeling is normal and I have read some of the posts and they do make me feel better knowing im not alone and we all deal with grief in our own way and there is help out there if we need it
You take care
Gem7 xx
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Hi there. Yes, what you are feeling is completely normal. I lost my mum at 90 in May this year. I was devastated. I never thought I would get through or would know how to cope as I am on my own and have been with her for over 50 years (all my life). I am her only daughter and she had been in a home for a year and I visited her every day. Every day is really hard. Most people will tell you in this first few weeks (or maybe a lot longer) you literally cannot get your head around it. I was constantly in tears, I couldn’t think about anything but my mum and just desperately wanted her back. I have got a little better recently. I am still thinking about her a lot during the day, but she is not invading my thoughts permanently. It has slightly eased.
I have all her lovely photos and am not as ‘desperate’ now as I was in those first 6 weeks. It will ease. It is very very hard. I visit her grave most days and make sure she has lovely flowers there.
I am also reading books from the library about grief. I think that helps. One I am reading at the moment, which I can recommend is “Beyond Goodbye”. It is a really good book. Sending big hugs. xx
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Hi thank you for telling me about the loss of your mum and how you are feeling. Like you I’m a only daughter and spent so much time with mum even before she became ill. I miss her everyday and it has been hard to deal with her sudden death. I still have to have the funeral which I know is going to be hard and I’m going to have the ash’s so she will be with me still. I find the evening’s nights and first thing in the morning are the worse the house fills so lonely without her . But like most people say it will get easier in time but I will always remember her and have the memories.
Take care xx
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Gem7, I know exactly how you feel, I feel the same, its so heartbreaking, lonely, it’s the worst pain ever
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Hi Morgan yes the pain is awful. It’s been just over a month since I lost mum but it feels like yesterday and you think will the pain ever go away, people say it does get easier and I have stopped crying has much, but I still wish mum was here, I was told she had months to live and all the different emotions I feel like anger, bitterness, sadness are all to do with not having that time with her and it makes me feel worse because I think she should be still here.
You take care.
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I lost My Dad 3 weeks ago . I know exactly how you feel . It’s so painful
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Laura8, I’m so sorry for your loss, its the worst feeling ever, you just feel so lost, I find it comforting to speak to others who are going through the same emotions, keep talking, take care of yourself x
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I lost my mum 3 weeks ago as well, she was only 61 and I’m devastated
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Emma 17, so sorry for your loss, I’m here if you need to talk, I’ve also lost my mum very recently 
xx
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it’s horrible, please take comfort that we on here seem to be feeling the same and understand the pain. so sorry xxx
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Our son died a month ago today. He used to phone us every morning from hospital saying wake up you sleepy heads get out of bed . We did not get a phone call that morning so at 8am I phoned him. I heard him go for the phone,then I heard bloody hell he must have dropped the phone. He told me his arm was hurting bad, he had gone through so much with them trying to get blood into him. He had bone meds and it had gone into the bone marrow. I told him we are coming even if the visiting hours were 2 to 8pm. We got there and held his hands he died at 1.50 pm. Our brave son said I am scared,I said we Are here. Then he said I got to go now ,I said where He said Death but he seemed at peace. My son was 47 with learning difficulties , mild cerebral palsy . But he was the bravest person I ever met. We loved him so much , pray for him and every body else suffering with cancer .God bless everyone who suffers
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Sorry for your loss. You are not alone. I unexpectedly lost my mom only a few days ago and I’m absolutely devastated. My heart is in absolute agony and I feel like my world has been turned upside down and smashed to bits! I can’t imagine the pain ever going but I assume time will heal our broken hearts and I’m sure our lost loved ones would want us to find happiness again. My thoughts are with you
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With u right there, exactly the same x
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Thankyou Emma, I’m so sorry you have lost your mum, its the worst thing ever, I’ve lost my best friend in the world, mum used to live with me, the house is not the same without her, how are you coping?x
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