Losing my son in law

My son in law passed away in November after a 3 year battle with cancer. We loved him like a son. We are now coping with our grief as well as trying to support our very young daughter. Her husband was her teenage sweetheart and they only had 10 wonderful years together.

I feel overwhelmed. I hurt so much. I have lost a wonderful family member but feel I must stay strong for my daughter.

I go from angr to pain to numbness to emptiness plus other emotions I don’t have a name for. I can’t see any end to this as my daughters grief has to be my priority and getting her through the first initial time period. She is supportive of us but she can only do so much.

We were the four musketeers and we took on cancer 3 years ago but now we are 3 and the bloody awful disease won.

Is anyone out their in a similar situation and maybe offer some advice.

Thank you

Hello Loular,

I am so sorry to hear that your son in law passed away after a long battle with lung cancer. It sounds as though you all had a wonderful, loving relationship and this must be such a difficult time for you.

I am sure other members of this community will respond with some advice soon, but in the meantime there is an article on our website that might be a helpful starting point for how to cope with this bereavement: https://www.sueryder.org/how-we-can-help/someone-close-to-me-has-died/advice-and-support/how-can-i-cope-with-bereavement

If you - or your daughter - feel that some additional help would be useful at this stage then we do offer bereavement counselling through this community. Sessions are free and held online via video chat so you can attend from home. If that would be helpful now or in the future there’s more information here: https://support.sueryder.org/bereavement-counselling

Take care,