I lost my wife on the 25 November 2024 ,it was so sudden she was admitted to hospital on the Sunday with breathing difficulties,I went to visit her on Monday as i arrived the crash team ran past me and I new it was for her.I was too late she had gone into cardiac arrest the guilt i feel I can’t convey I really don’t know how to deal with the emotions I’m feeling,I’m at a loss even though I have family and friends to support me I still feel totally alone any advice would be appreciated thank you and my heart goes out to all who are dealing with these feelings x
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@3rha I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my wonderful husband 6 weeks ago and I’m not sure I have too much advice other than just take one day at a time. Guilt is a natural emotion I think most of us go through, all the what if’s and wishing you’d done things differently. But we all did what we thought was right at the time, we didn’t know what was coming so we did what we thought best with the information we’d got. It’s really difficult I know and it wears you out going over everything in your head, it will ease, grief is a process and you have to work through it. Take care of yourself, if you have family and friends reach out to them and know that you are not alone. On this forum we are here for each other whenever you need it x
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3rha. I’m truly sorry for your loss. I lost my wife on 17 November - she’d gone in the week before with a chest infection. I was doing something for her I’d promised I’d do at home which affected 12 of her friends if I hadn’t and she chose that time to go. Her parents did the same, both died when she’d just left their rooms for a few minutes. I can’t believe they were all coincidences. Perhaps your wife did the same? So I just say thank you to my wife for sparing me that trauma. She had our 4 children by her bedside. You truly don’t have anything to feel guilty about, none of us has 20/20 foresight and as has been said, we all do what is right based on what we know.
Take care, Nigel
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3rha, i lost my beloved husband on 23rd November 2024 to cancer, i had 4 weeks from the diagnosis. I miss him everyday
So sorry for your loss
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I had 7 weeks. No time at all. Then I lost my wonderful wife forever. That was last August. I’m getting there slowly, but I’m definitely coping better. You will too eventually.
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I lost my wife almost 5 months ago now very quickly with pancreatic cancer lost my sister 4 days before her she was visiting my wife in hospital and collapsed beside her bed of a brain bleed and died my wife was my soulmate 24/7.
Life really kicks us but lets kick back and be there for our loved ones.
Take care:broken_heart:
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