Hi to everyone here, This is my first post here.
My Wife passed away, on 6th December 2016. My Wife had MS, which she had for 40years. Janice , my Wife, used to get MS seizures, these would normally last for about 10-15 minutes, then she would sleep and come round after about half an hour of sleeping it off. On the Friday 2nd December, Janice, started to have a seizure, but it just went on and on, one after another, I tried calling the out of hours GP, but got no reply, I called for an ambulance, a paramedic arrived and said that it looked like she had an infection, which could have started the seizures, the paramedic, then called for an ambulance, they put Janice on Oxygen and took her to hospital.
At the hospital, Janice was given Oxygen and antibiotics. There was no improvement on the Friday night / Saturday morning.
I returned to the hospital, on the Saturday afternoon, there was some improvement, Janice was coming round for brief periods, which continued throughout the day.
When I went in to the hospital on the Sunday, I was amazed, Janice, was talking and laughing, although still a bit dazed, so I said that how well she was doing, that she would probably be home in a couple of days.
On the Monday morning, I phoned the hospital, to see what sort of night Janice had, I was told, that she had not had a good night, as she was struggling to breathe, they had physiotherapists helping with her breathing, I went to the hospital straight away, and could not believe the change from the day before. even though Janice was on oxygen, she was still struggling to breath, this went on all day , with the physios doing the best they could.
On the Tuesday morning. I phoned the hospital, they told me that Janice’s breathing was getting worse and that I should get there as soon as I could. They told me that the infection was now pneumonia, which at that point, her left lung was completely blocked. They said they were waiting for the I.C.U team, to come and assess her.
At 4 o’clock, we were taken into the relatives room, we were told, that they were going to try one more dose of antibiotics, if this doesn’t have any effect, then they will be withdrawing the antibiotics, and just leave her on the Oygen, as they said that it would be to painful for Janice, if they tried to resuscitate her. At 5 o’clock, the antibiotics stopped, Janice passed away at six minutes past six.
Ever since that day, I struggle without her, every second of the day, Janice is a Spiritualist, so I know that she is around me, I talk to her all the time, I tell her, how much I love her and how much I miss her and I feel that at times, that I should be with her.
My life now, is completely empty, I hate having to go out, as I can’t stand the silence and the emptiness when I come back. Although I was Janice 's main carer, we had nurses and other carers in and out most days, so there was always someone here, as we used to say it was like Piccadilly Circus, but now there is not anybody and I feel totally useless, as there was always something for me to do, like get her breakfast, get her medication, make a drink, make her dinner, do the washing, all these things stopped immediately.
Never had a phone call from the GP, the Nurses or the Carers company, its like we never existed, one thing that really hurt, was on the day of the funeral, the 30th December, I walked in the front door, there was a letter on the mat, I opened it, it was the final bill, from the carers company, for Janices care, I couldn’t believe it, this is how callous some people are, I thought , couldn’t this have waited until the new year, they knew when the funeral was, I was disgusted, not even a card.
Also I was fed up with all the letters from various departments, which all started with " Very sorry for your loss … but, we want this equipment back or sorry you are no longer entitled to that, there just does not seem to be any compassion anymore. I was on the phone for over an hour trying to get Janice’s mobile phone contract cancelled, it’s just crazy.
At this moment in time, I just don’t know what to do, I just miss her so much.
I apologise for this being so long and I appreciate anyone who took the time to read it thank you all