My elder Sister Passed away in February 2020 after a Stroke. My eldest Sister passed away October 2021with double breast cancer and nephew passed same month 2021 due to heart failure.
Then my Stepdad passed January of this year 2022 heart attack and Dementia…all in all it’s been a horrendous loss to me personally as well as other family members. All this grief caused me to have a total breakdown in October 2022 after my Sister’s funeral and I was in hospital for just under 8 weeks with a Brain virus.
I have found the grieving so difficult and just cannot come to terms with so much loss in such a short time. I have contacted other sites and no one has got back to me. So feel quite alone in all this.My husband is very understanding and my Rock.
Brenda. You are going through such a horrendous time. Take one day at a time. Grieving makes you physically and mentally exhausted. I lost my lovely husband 17 months ago and I still can’t believe it happened. He had a cardiac arrest in front of me. He never regained consciousness and a month later I was sat with him as he took his last breath. I cannot believe it is real. My heart is broken. I struggle through and go day by day. That is all I can cope with. Take it slow and cry when you need to. Keep texting as there is a great deal of support on the forum xx
Brenda1954
I do hope you find the support you need on this site. Big hugs to you.
I am so very sorry to learn of all those losses Brenda has suffered so quickly, one after another. Sorry, too that Nel lost her husband. Life can be so cruel.
I am grieving the death of my son - the sunshine of my life. He died in April.
Grief is very hard to bear. All we can do is be kind to each other and try to stay strong.
It’s OK to cry. People say the pain will lessen with time. I do hope so.
All good wishes xx
T46
- Thank you so much for your kindness. So sorry to hear of your sad loss of your beautiful Son really hope he did not suffer from too much pain.
Remember you are not alone in your grief we are all here to support each other! I have tried meditation to help me through my grieving and is helps as I also suffer with Mental Health issues all brought on by my families passings. Very difficult for other family members to understand as thy grieve in their own way and not intrest4ed in supporting others. I do hope this site is going to be good for all of us out there feeling alone and helpless, i thank you for supporting me on this path.
I too Brenda suffer with anxiety and has got worse since my husband died. Some people do not understand as they have never suffered. Sending hugs x
Hello Nel
Many thanks for your kindness. So sorry to hear of your sad loss must have been heart breaking to have seen this tragically happening to your dear Husband and I pray he did not suffer too much pain.
The trauma really hits you like a hammer, knowing there is nothing you can do to help.
Worst thing for me that certain family members have blamed me for not being there for my sister or Stepdad …this was so wrong on all parts as my brother-in-law took over everything from the day, they both took ill… and wiped out all other blood relatives from their lives…not allowing us to be part of funeral arrangements etc etc… this was purely for his own greed and that of a niece. Far to complicated to address all this but the whole matter has left us all feeling more grief than we could imagine. Some people belief they did this out of love!!! but so not the case
I miss my sisters so, so much and the pain gets more unbearable each d ay… my eldest sister was like a Mum to me as she supported my upbringing as she was 10 years older than me. i am one of THIRTEEN children and my blood Father passed when I was 9 years of age …I still miss him to this day. I hope I have not put too much on here about myself! just putting feelings so others get to know a bit about me.
take care for now we are here for each and that is a positive.
B
I am very sorry for all of the relatives that you have lost. Thinking of you
Hello Nel
Many thanks for your kindness. So sorry to hear of your sad loss must have been heart breaking to have seen this tragically happening to your dear Husband and I pray he did not suffer too much pain.
The trauma really hits you like a hammer, knowing there is nothing you can do to help sucks too.
My laptop is playing up so I will have to message etc on my phone tomorrow…too tired to continue this evening.