I lost my 25yr old son 19th September 2023 … i feel ok one minute and then break my heart the next … i feel so angry at times that i just want someone to feel the hurt i feel
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Hello @Tray1,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your son. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to look at The Compassionate Friends - for families who have lost a child of any age - 0345 123 2304 https://www.tcf.org.uk/
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Trey its early days, my son went in August, I functioned better in early days probably because I was on automatic These boards we parents know the hurt you feel, no other person can unless you have lost a child no one else can really understand. Keep chatting to us on these boards
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I too lost my daughter on 19th sept 2023. I totally understand how you are feeling…to lose a child totally heartbreaking
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Only another mum can feel your pain and I’m one.
It is a pain like no other and it changes us forever but we have to draw strength from the beautiful times we had with our loved one.
Remembering them always.
Jayne x
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I lost my son 13th August in a van fire he was 34 with a 7 year old son and now a 5 week old baby. How i get through each day i have no idea .ive felt abandoned noone seems to care unless they have gone through it or going through it themselves. I feel totally heartbroken and feel like my heart has been ripped out and torn apart. When aaron died a part of me died i will never be the same person again
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I am struggling after losing my lovely daughter in September. To lose are children in tragic circumstances is heartbreaking. . I look at her 5 year old son and ask the question , why? Until I can onto this site I truly felt like no one understood my pain, now I know that I’m not alone and you all are feeling the same pain. I have as tarted to read a book trying to find a meaning for the loss of my lovely girl . I cry daily for her, miss her and love her much x
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Its so hard, and while it changes it seems to get harder all the time. Im back to no appetite, stomach always in pain. You do feel abandoned so much for im here for you ive not seen anyone local for nearly 5 weeks now, i came off facebook 4 weeks ago and two people have messaged me to see how i am. Life is gling to be very quiet from now on.
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I took to my bed this morning after wakking my dog felt absolutely terrible. Just dont want to do anything cant br bothered to do anything. Noone understands unless they are going through it themselves or have gone through it. Totally alone feelings of complete abandonment by people now i even got told a work maybe a holiday will do you good!!! I felt so bloody angry and nearly said how would you feel if it happened to you!!!
I lost my 30yr old son in March 2023. We were so close, he left a beautiful little girl aged 9. Months. She is 17 months now and is his double.We still do not know how it happened. It was a freak accident. The inquest was opened in May. I know he isn’t here anymore but I can’t accept it. I cry every day and miss him so much.
Losing a child is completely different , it doesn’t seem a natural order of life. I meditate which helps me relax.
My grandma lost 2 of her sons in their 30’s, I now know how she must have felt and there wasn’t the help we have these days.
Sending blessings, strength and love to others who have lost their children. 
I too have felt totally abandoned by people who I thought cared about me. Tbh I’ve had more support from people who I don’t know that well . I lost my husband eight years ago but this is very different, to lose a child is so so wrong. I too still cry every single day and I have no interest in life in general. We have got to wait until Feb for the inquest. I still can’t believe I ll never see my girl again .however old she was she will always be my beautiful baby.
It was my son’s funeral a year ago today,he was 31 years old and died very unexpectedly and suddenly at home with me and my daughter,and this is now the last 1st of everything.
I don’t know if that’s a relief or not as everyday is heartbreaking but I want to reach out to all those that have lost a child or loved one.
They say times a healer but I don’t think that’s necessarily true, I think we just have to adjust to life being forever different.
Love to you all,we’re on this dreadful journey together xxx
Yes i I get you. Had coroners court last tues aaron died from carbon monoxide poisoning in the back of his van he didnt put a,cigarette out properly. He had an argument with his girlfriend she kicked him out .never even rang me to tell me so he ended up sleeping in his van for 2cdays .the coroner accidentally sent me a picture of him in the back of the van which i wasent supposed to see .it has traumatised me and ny family. I feel every mum and dads pain and im here to talk to every single person as we all need each other xxx
Im here for every single person. We all must keep talking and supporting each other i know i cant do tbis on my own. Xxxxxx
Thank you i just feel so lost with our him he was the youngest off 4
I’m still not able to go into his room… and i so desperately want to but each time i open the door all i see is him lying on the floor with myself doing cpr … and it breaks me every time … day tumes i keep busy but its the nuggts that are hurtting me im getting 2 maybe 3 hiurs off sleep a night and i look after my g.daughter while my daughter works… my boy was definitely a night owl so these hours are very long
Ive just referred myself to counselling as im just in a complete mess just like everyone else. I sit by his graveside 2 hours every day as i can’t bear to be away from him. My grandson who is 7 needs counselling and aaron has now a 5weeks old baby he will never see. This is excruciating for every single one of us and just trying to find the strength to get through each day is hard. May i ask how old was your son
@Tray1 I understand your feelings. I too had to do CPR on my 19 year old son on his bedroom floor even though I knew he had already gone. The memory of finding him haunts me every day and the feeling of guilt due to not being able to save him consumes me. I lost Harry on 11th October.
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I too had to do CPR on my son, I thought he was asleep, until I touched his arm. I knew he was gone all through f*****g drugs. Broken by it. The noise of the ambulance sirens, so many police haunts me every day. I do have good days but it takes along time to have a good day. Take care xx
Hi just seeing how everyone is. My day been shit its like groundhog day every day with the same pain. Self disbelief and thinking when am i going to wake up from this horrific nightmare xxxx