Hey all, this is my first post. I think reaching out to people going through similar situations is something that would help me at this time as Im finding everything so overwhelming. To start, we lost my dear mother to RMS cancer in. After a long battle over a few years she was not able to carry on and sadly passed on June 7th 2018 when I was 15. Whilst I was pretty young, the grieving process had taken a massive toll on my wellbeing. I was studying. for my GCSE’s and it felt like everything had ended.
Through some sheer willpower or wanting to show my love for my mother, I somehow came back the next year to pass all of my exams really well. It was a great moment for myself. I think there’s a part of me though that did not heal properly after mum’s passing. I didn’t talk a lot to people and constantly was trying to mask myself from negative feelings.
Mum’s passing took an incredible toll on my dad though. He began to succumb to alcohol as his vice and became rather distant. Even though he didn’t seem like the man I knew before, in moments where he would try and quit he would always be so caring, so I always had a deep love for him. Sadly, last month on September 10th 2025, he too lost his battle to alcohol and passed from a severely damaged liver and a heart attack overnight.
Everything now feels like a blur. Im 22 but I’m having to deal with his most complex estate. He had a company and employees and im still trying to balance my current working conditions all at the same time. I try talking to my family and friends but I can never get out the way im properly feeling. If anyone has any advice for myself or has been through a similar situation, I would love to hear. Take care all
I lost my mum when I was 15 and then my dad 10 days before my 21st birthday.
I organised my dad’s funeral and estate. I was working and studying.
On the 25th October, we lost our 13 year old. I have 2 other children and run a business.
I can relate to many things you have shared.
It doesn’t feel right giving advice, but I will share how I got through things with my parents’ passing away.
I like to make lists.
Im better in the morning so tackle the big pieces of admin first.
I didn’t ask for help because I didn’t know what help I needed. But the solicitor was amazing. I am asking for very practical help this time with my daughter.
I had to let go of things that were not important temporarily.
You WILL get through the blur x It will take some time.
Is there anyone who can help?
I run a business. Feel free to message me and I will try my best to support.
Thanks for your kind words. Right now the pain is unimaginable but I cannot even fathom the loss of a child. Your words really have resonated with me that I’m not alone and shows how strong you are.
Luckily I’m taking the same sort of approach taking over my dad’s business and like you said the solicitors are helping a tonne. It’s all a lot and I’m trying to make sure my younger sister is doing okay. Luckily she’s 18 and she’s also been helping me through this.
I hope you are keeping well yourself and thank you so much once again