My lovely husband Brian died over 4 years ago now. I am slowly getting there, except that I have lost all my confidence. I have no belief in myself any more, and I don’t know how to get it back. I somehow do not fit in anymore and am not the person I used to be. I no longer find any purpose in life. People say things like go to a class, do volunteer work etc, but I am now so introverted I don’t have the courage to try new things, or even go into situations where I don’t feel safe. The belief in myself or any confidence I had in my abilities seems to have disappeared. I have friends but I am scared that I am being a burden to them as I constantly need reassurance that I am ok person. I hope that makes sense.
Hello Misty12. So sorry you are feeling this way, please don’t lock yourself away from living a full life, ,its true we lived a different life with our husbands and now we hafta go at it on our own. I’m in early stages of grieving for my husband. Not quite 8 weeks, and I miss him terribly 
but I have to find something in life that will motivate me to do something for myself and for others as well. I know our husbands would want us to live life to the fullest. It’ll be hard i know, May God bless you
Thank you, you sound like a lovely person. Thank you for your advice and I wish you all the best on your grief journey, it’s certainly not an easy one.
I get this completely. We lose our anchor point and it is very destabilising. I too am an introvert person and my husband was a counter balance for me.
You might find reading this other post/trail reassuring, that this sensation is natural.
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