It’s been a while since l posted l have been going through some tough weeks ,my husbands 1st birthday then our 1st wedding anniversary which would have been 59yrs l celebrated alone , really hard, it’s been nearly 6mnths now but things are not getting any easier, l am so lonely,nobody seems to realise what l am still going through,nobody asks how are you ,friends stopped calling ,family visits dropped to 5/6 weeks ,it’s like you should be over it now,if they only new,all the emotions are inside,coming to the surface when I am sitting thinking of all the good times, l am torturing myself thinking why don’t people realise what l am going through, how do l stop thinking what others think and just grieve myself on my own, l am just going through the motions everyday, can’t really see no future,is this still normal ,l don’t know how to move forward, l don’t think l want to at this moment,
Hi @GINNY3,
I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts, but I just wanted to say thank you for so bravely sharing this with us. Keep reaching out,
Alex
Dear @GINNY3
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can understand the loneliness and the utter heartache. My husband passed away in his sleep aged 52 years old. We had been together for 24 years.
I have lots if friends who ask how I am. Do I feel any less lonely? No, because the one person’s company that I crave is no longer here.
There is no set time for grief so don’t burden yourself about forward or what people think. They didn’t know your husband like you did and the special relationship you both shared.
I can’t see a future either - I just function, doing everything that is expected of me. Life has lost it’s colour.
Please understand that you are not alone. All of us here are experiencing the searing pain of losing our loved one.
If you need to offload,this forum is the ideal place.
Take care, warmest of virtual hugs to you.
we were soul mates far too young 14, then we broke up at 15 lol and until 16 I was a lady of the world, I thought, so silly now at 60. I married him at 17 and they def weren’t always easy but we pulled together, through alot of things normal people never experience. We were soul mates. You and yours also, I believe, we’ll meet again, could be a camp fire, could be at pearly gates, or our conscious, can’t love someone that strongly, to just evaporate!! Keep strong, and by all means keep here if it helps, but you are a strong character, you’ve done the hard bit, if the worse is living, you only got one punt, use it up
much love xx
I think Ginney you got alot more fight in you, get up, time to sit down is when your number is called, what did you want to do you never did? What you got to loose, I know not the same but think xxx