I lost my husband in oct 23 to cancer he was only ill for 3 months but we didn’t know it was cancer then he only found out in the sept. He went into hospital on the 3rd and passed on the 6th my whole world fell apart I’ve been with him since I was 15. It is very difficult I miss him every day. I’ve been back at work last 3 weeks reduced days but even that’s hard it’s like going on stage while I’m there then the relief to be myself when I get home I feel safe in my little bubble at home. Still early days but seems so long ago since I last saw him. 
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Sorry for you loss - I also lost my partner to cancer, so can relate, esp the bubble at home
Day at a time, best we can we do
Stay strong
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Sorry for your loss too 
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There isn’t a feeling like it,when the consultant said to me and my wife 6 to 8 weeks,(she died from Acute Myeloid Leukemia,) everything changed,my ability to grasp what I was hearing was none existent,I even begged him to say it could be 6 to 12 months and he said, “Mike,it’s weeks not months,”
What I’m saying is that I know the way you feel,the pain you feel,I know that whole feeling of this can’t be happening and why can’t I/we protect my wife,(your husband,) as I always did. It’s just a nightmare and rips your heart out in so many soul destroying ways. If someone hasn’t experienced this life changing trauma then they have no idea of just how you feel.
Somehow just try keep him close to you until you feel stronger,until you understand better what this loss has done to your life and how,bit by bit,you can grow around your grief. Tajke care and know that we are all here waiting to hear from you for whatever reason when you feel the need. Mike. x
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Hello Mike I’m so sorry for your loss. You are right there really isn’t a feeling like this pain my husband passed in October 23 he had cancer was poorly for 3 months then went to hospital on the 3rd oct and passed on the 6th and my world just crumbled around me. Hard thing is I also work at the hospital he passed in so going back is difficult but I’m in my 3rd week reduced days and hours but it’s a struggle to keep up the happy me. But taking it one day at a time.
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I lost my husband very suddenly on 17th January. We were together 25 years I’m only 48 and am at a loss as to why I’m a widow. I don’t know what my life looks like without him and don’t know where to place myself. I’m totally lost and everyone is being so kind, I just want him nobody else. Is this it until I go and be with him?
I’m so sorry for anyone going through this
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Hi Lear I know the feeling I lost my husband in oct he was poorly for3 mths so very quick but my world crumbled we had been married 44years. Just take one day at a time
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Hi @Lear1
I lost my partner on 3rd Dec 2023 , it was unexpected and he was only 54, same age as me. I totally feel the same way you are. I’ve not gone back to work yet, still trying to make sense of it all. Take care x
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@Julie130 im sorry for your loss. I lost my partner in November to cancer. He became ill in August bad cough couldnt eat and was losing weight. He had blood test xray ct and pet scan and eventually told on the 31st oct he had lung cancer and after another scan on his brain then 3 days later was told it had spread to his brain 2 days later he passed away.
We had all that waiting for results and then once we got the dreaded news it was too late.
I feel so angry that he never had a chance and everything happened so quickly.
I had 8 weeks off work and then 4 weeks reduced hours. Im now working full time and its like you have to put on a game face and everyone thinks you are okay.
I feel like im in a dream and he will come home i cant believe i will never see him or talk to him ever again. Im just so heartbroken
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Ohhh sue im so so sorry for your loss everything you have just said is so close to what happened to my husband he started with a bad back which also gave some pain in chest he went to doctor and was given ameprozol for month didn’t help went back was given other tablets then went for ct and endoscopy then he saw a doctor that told us the bad news he had lesions on stomach kidney and pancreas so all the waiting for appointments a trip to A&E which didn’t help. Was all to late. He went to hospital on the 3rd of October and passed on the 6th my heart broke that day my world will never be the same. I’m just taking one day at a time. Take care
Sorry for your loss I lost my partner to brain cancer 11 weeks ago aged 55. Totally fit man all happened to quick got diagnosed in September he passed on 2nd December 23 my life will never be the same again x
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Julie its just so horrible over the weeks i had called an ambulance 4 times as he was so weak and in pain in his lung. He was admitted twice and visited the same day emergency care 3 times and even though we asked the questions we was just told we needed to wait for all the resukts from scans and biopsy. They would only commit to say he had a shadow on his lung.
All we can do is take each day at a time and try and live some sort of a life. Take care x
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Hi Debbie so so sorry for your loss it really is worse pain ever. I’m just trying to take one day at a time and get used to a new normal but really I just want my old normal back.
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Same I would give anything for one more cuddle even though I knew he was going to die and we said all we needed to say it’s never enough my heart is truly broken
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I know exactly how you feel sue. It’s nice to have people to chat to who really understand.
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Debbie I know the feeling well