I lost my Mum she is my world. I am not coping
I lost my mum 7 years ago to dementia. I felt like I lost her twice. She did not know who I was at the end. I miss her so much. I recently lost my husband and so wish my mum was here. So sorry for your loss. You will feel like you can’t cope as it’s so fresh and raw. Take each day hour by hour and don’t expect too much from yourself. You will be desperately sad and feel it is all so unreal. Grief is like waves and will hit you when you least expect it. We are all here to help and listen. Keep texting whenever you need support and a friendly listening ear. Take care xx
Nel, thank you for your kind words. Mum died of asbestos cancer just at start of lockdown. I spent months looking after her. I went on sick from my work as I wanted to be there with her every second I could. To spend all the time with her. We had 6 short months I was the one who drove her treatment pestering the doctors to get some thing done, but it was terminal they couldn’t do anything in the end. But yet at the start I hide it from Mum & the family as I knew. till I couldn’t hide it any more. Mum knew although we never spoke of it. Although she did say to me at the end "I think I should go’ I told her no I needed her. But she was in so much pain. She ended up a shell of who she was. I adored her & my heart aches so much. Sorry for pouring heart out but I can’t talk to anyone… X
It does you good to pour your heart out. This is what the site is for so that we can all pour our hearts out and talk of our pain and sadness because after a while friends an family don’t want to listen and think we should have moved on.
I list my husband ten months ago and it feels like yesterday. I sometimes stop in my tracks and just wonder how did this happen. One minute life was fine and the next he had gone. It all seems so unreal.
I too am not coping well. I only go out to walk my dog and other than that stay indoors. The winter does not help with dark nights grey sky and rain.
I feel so anxious. The life we had had gone so suddenly and we are left on our own. All we can do is try to cope with each day the best we can. Take care x
This is my first time on here as I felt lost. Needed help. Didn’t know where to turn.
My hearts breaking for you too. Massive hugs. You poor soul losing two massive people in your life.
Dog are wonderful wee people. I also have a frog. My only reason for getting out of bed some days.
Probably like yourself.
Your right, I feel some of my friends don’t get it. I dead the day the do. As their Mum’s ate young.
My Mum was 64. But she acted like a 30 year old younger than me at times.
It’s been good too talk & let it out.
Take cate xxx
I am so sorry. It’s flipping hard to lose a parent. Just try and do something for yourself every day.
Imcenhill, you sound like a hero for being there for your mum so considerately x
Sorry for your loss . I also lost my mum Christmas Day 2021 suddenly . She was my word my rock my best friend she meant everything to me .
I miss her so much . We haven’t had the funeral yet it’s this month . Mum was I’ll for a long time and I looked after her as much as I could . There was no cure for her illness and we were expecting it but nothing ever prepares when it happens.
Please feel free to message and talk
Sorry for your loss . My mum died on 16th January. I don’t know how to go on without her . I love her so much and I’ve never felt a pain in my heart like this.
Hi I know I feel your pain and Sorrow sorry for your loss. Know that you are not alone and here is a good place for us to talk
I lost my mum in may 2020. She had cancer , died of sepsis. I am really struggling because I am single and have my dad although he is elderly. I have a good job as a university lecturer and a few friends but I miss my mum so much. I really am struggling so much.