Loss of my husband

Finding it very hard lost my husband last June weekend s are the worst no children so very much on my own except for 6 month old puppy which has really helped me she keeps me busy

I have just my husband after 51yrs together and my heart is hurting and can’t stop crying I really feel I can’t go on without him

Hi Julie I am so sorry for your loss. I also was married 51 years and lost him just over 2 years ago, It is so hard this journey of grief. The more you grieve the more you loved him, We used to say that when one of us passed that we will still love each other. I think I love him even more as they say absence makes the heart grow fonder. You learn to live beside the grief, I hope you have a family or friends to support you. We have a wonderful family and I don"t know what I would do without them, But of course they are grieving too but this forum has been so much help and knowing that we are not alone really helps, Love and hugs to you. xx Carol. xx

Thank you for your reply, I have 2children and 5 grandchildren, I must remember that they are grieving also but I don’t think it’s the same grief as you feel for your life partner.

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My husband of 52 years died of a stroke 4 weeks ago. He was always so full of life. His death was a terrible shock. I don’t know how I will be able to live without him . I’m so sorry that you are suffering too. It may sound naive but I never had any idea of the despair and intensity of the pain

My husband died in December and I can’t even begin to describe how dreadful the loneliness is and how much I miss him. I go out and try to socialise. Today I was with friends and someone said how well I am coping and how brave I am. I must be acting well because at home I just cry all the time. I feel a complete wreck. How long until I get used to being without him. We have been together for almost 53 years and now my life is empty, despite a very supportive and loving family.

Hi to everyone who is grieving, I have spent 5days away with my son and family in Sheringham.but the whole time I was so sad just thinking of Andy the whole time. I had a 5hr journey back on the train, of which Iwas crying all the way, must have thought I was a mad women. I am now at home been here for 4hrs and I have done nothing but sob. It’s been 7wks tomorrow and I feel worse.

Dearest julie29 Like you my husband of 52 years died 30.9.19 and I still hurt although family and friends think I am doing well. The problem is everything is back to normal but your life like mine will never be normal again. So we have to try and make a differant life for ourselves and just take one day at a time. I found walking helps and keeping in touch on this site. Lots of Hugs Queenie

Hi very sorry that you like me are in such a pain. My darling left 21.11.18 just over 3 months. After a very short illness. We didnt have time to react, think or even discussed the scaring news of cancer. what a shock i have just arrived from holidays. Complete Life changing. Nothing will be normal. Not the normality we knew.
We need to try and build a new life which i find very difficult. My life was my beautiful husband of 30 years.
Sending a big hug to share the though tbst you are not alone in this journey. X

Hi, I know how you feel I lost my husband 10wks ago through sepsis,all I do all day is look at the window in a trance I still can’t believe I will never see him again. I met him when I was 15yrs old and saw him every day until he went, oh so sad. Big hugs to you too.

Dearest juliel29 Like you Dave and I spent a lot of time together. Dave loved to socialise so I have lots of friends and family but even when I am out having a meal with friends or family I still feel very lonely, as Dave would be making everyone laugh or just making sure I was alright. The only thing we can do is manage each day and keep busy as possible trying to do things we never would have done before as nothing can be worst then losing our life long friend and partner Lots of Hugs xxx

Hi All
very sorry that you are going through this painful journey as well.
Today is a very bad day one of those when the water falls doesnt stop regardless of what i do. I want to have my darling back and have my life back.
It has been the longest 3 months of my life and at the same my life stop 3 months ago.
I also havw friends and family visiting but feeling lonely all the same all the time.

Motivation and self confidence…nil… the loss of my dearest and loving husband has been the hardest thing and i am not sure how to survive without him by my side.
Thinking of all you you and hope you are not feeling as rotten as i do today.

Dearest De Thank you for your kind words, like you every day is hard to get thru although we must carry on as I am sure Dave like your husband would not like us to give in. Today is a really bad day for me as I received the coroners report for my husband and he should not have died. So at the moment I relive the awful pain everyday as I a case going on with the hospital I have a advocate working on my behalf as I don’t want to go for a solicitor because I feel the ward my Dave was on should be closed down. Lots of hugs We all will get thru this awful period of pain as we all manage the loss and going on living in their memory. lots of hugs xx

Dear Queenie. Very sorry its a bad day. I understand perfectly how yoh must feel.

I too received yesterday my husbands medical history and took courage to read some this afternoon, with my heart in my hands.
Same advocacy support as dont think i can go through the legal route. But need to know if he could have been a bit longer with me as i strongly believe to be the case. Its not going to bring him back.

Its all too much in addition to the pain we will always be carrying with us.

Went for a fast walk and i am glad the park was empty because i cried and spoke loud to my darling, asking to be with me and apologising.
Someone mentioned feaders and i found 3 small ones !!! I miss him dearly…

A big hug xxx

Hi Julie. So sorry for your loss. I too met my husband when I was 15 and we married when I was 18. We’d been married for 49 years when he died in November last year from a brain tumour. I feel so lonely without him as he was my soul mate. I’m trying hard to cope and some days are better than others. It’s worse when I’m alone in the house all day so I’m trying to get out as much as possible and when I am indoors putting the TV or radio on to try and focus on something else. Hope you can find ways to help you through as well. X

Thank you for your reply I too got married at 18. We had been married for 47yrs. I don’t want anyone to feel the grief I’m feeling but when I read the posts I understand that I’m not on my own I hope that doesn’t make me sound awful. Take carex