Hello, my sister died very suddenly two weeks ago. She was only 59 and my poor mum ( aged 80 ) found her dead in bed. I am heartbroken and trying to look after my mum and dad who are grief stricken. I am having to face the ordeal of a post mortem before I can begin to make arrangements for my sisters funeral and I am finding everything overwhelming. There are no other immediate family members and the feeling of lonliness is swallowing me. I have to stay strong for my parents but I don’t know where to start.
Jan
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Sorry for the loss of your sister . I lost my sister many years ago when she was only 4 years old. I often wonder what she would have achieved and miss the closeness we could have had. I have a brother but think its not the same as a sister they have a special bond. It must be so hard for your parents no one should bury there children. Hope you and you parents find some comfort in the months to come and keep posting on here we are here to listen and understand. Xx
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Thank you for your kind words. I know its very early days but my anxiety is torturing me. I keep thinking I’m going to lose my parents too through grief and Im trying to shield them whilst coping myself. I have never felt so desperate and lonely.
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Thank You for sharing how you’re feeling I hope you and your parents are in a stronger space emotionally & mentally now. Grief is so hard to explain to others and it can feel like the world just stops. I lost my dad last month and was with him when he passed. I take each day as it comes and I have no idea on how I’m feeling when someone asks me. The only thing that I can do is be honest with Myself . I have reached out to a few of my closest friends and family who are non judgemental to talk. I have even thought about making a memory box with my 5yr old so we can remember the good memories about my dad, maybe it’s something you can do with your parents to remember your sister. May you all be surrounded in love .
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Thank you for replying, I am truly sorry you have lost your dad, its such a painful time when a loved one passes. I am still struggling, my sisters funeral is next week and Im getting more and more anxious. I have arranged it and tried to make it as beautiful as I can for her but I cant bear the thought that I’ll never see her again.
Grief on this level is all consuming and as you say it feels like the world stops. I am taking life one day at a time and hope one day soon I’ll start to heal.
Be gentle to yourself and I hope you find comfort remembering the happy times you had with your dad x
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