Loss of my wife

I lost my wife 21/9/23 she choked on a piece of chicken at the wake of her late father I am still in shock and find it hard to comprehend what happened the house is so quiet without her. I hope that I will take comfort from the community and to share my feelings. I have received lots of support from friends but it always hits me when I put the key in the door I just hope the pain will ease but it is so hard thanks to everyone on this site xx

@Phil58 I am so sorry for your loss and welcome to this group that none of us chose. I lost my husband of 40 years on 21/09/2023 as well after 4 days in hospital which was a shock to me as I was not expecting his not to come home from hospital. My whole world collapsed so I can fully understand what you are going through. The pain never goes but we are both in the early stages of grieving. The pain and loneliness can be unbearable. I feel like my heart is broken and will never be whole again. I miss my husband terribly and have floods of tears especially in the mornings and weekends. You can only take one day at a time. It’s good that you are getting support from friends. Lean on them. Everyone in this community understands what you are going through and will support you. Keep posting. I have found this community a godsend. Take care of yourself and reach out as often as you need to. Sending you love and big hugs. xx

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What a terrible thing to happen especially at the wake, no wonder you are in such shock. I lost my husband after only 7 days in hospital with no obvious signs that he was so ill, this was 5 weeks ago. I feel all the same overwhelming and devastating emotions that go hand in hand with grief and don’t know if I will ever feel the same again. I think this is my normal from now on. This site has helped me to understand that these feelings are normal and people on here understand better than well meaning friends and family, who incidentally have no idea (unless they are bereaved themselves). Be gentle on yourself take care x

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Hi @Phil58, what a ghastly and traumatic thing to happen. I am so sorry for your loss. Terrible.

I cared for my wife for several years but she finally succumbed January 2022. I exist in a living nightmare but still somehow keep going. Why I don’t know but I do.

The only people I have found who fully understand how devastating bereavement is are the bereaved themselves. Others at best are well meaning and try to be supportive while the rest are useless bordering on downright hurtful.

That’s why this forum is excellent. The folk here sadly know intimately what you are talking about and how you are feeling.

Try to be kind to yourself, nurture yourself as best as you can. Make use of this forum and the wonderful people here.

Best wishes.

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