My mom.passed away on 29th january 26 whilst in hospital. She had been having immunotherapy for lung cancer but it spread very quickly and she deteriorated over 10 days. We missed our goodbyes with her by 10mins stuck in traffic to hospital. We sat with her on arrival and stroked her forehead, spoke to her and she looked so much at peace. My struggle is accepting the loss and missing final momemts before she passed. My mind is consumed by what if’s, different route, being told sooner she had deteriorated so much. I know it won’t change anything but I miss her so much and doesn’t feel real that she’s gone. We were so close.
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Very sorry to know of your grief. For you and your mother 
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BexsterK, i feel for you. myy mam died very late at night after sudden deterioration so i never got a final goodbye either. cancer is such a awful disease, it takes so much from us all. i tell myself that she could’ve gone at any hour, that the final moments dont make the rest of our lives together any less important or meaningful, and that she wouldve known she was loved even if i wasnt there with her. i still get moments of what ifs too, it does feel like mental torture, but im hoping acceptance will come with time
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I knew mine was going (mum had heart failure and had already had a stroke and was given about a year. I would always phone her of an evening; I had an interview the next day but I phoned her, I told her I loved her as I always did on the phone, she said the same and she died in her sleep that night….still miss her terribly.
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@BexsterK I’m so sorry for your loss. My mum passed away in hospital on 21 January, & I totally understand your what if’s & if only’s.
sending you the biggest hug 
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