Hi luv so sorry for your loss I know it’s a cruel awful world and that bloody cancer it’s just a terrible disease my daughter got stage 3 breast cancer which turned into stage 4 liver cancer they couldn’t do no more for her she went home to be with her little boy and partner a week later she had passed my world has been ripped apart so I know what you are going through so much I can only say keep coming on here and pouring your heart out to us to try and help you my daughter died 7 months ago so it’s still very raw to me. Luv shellyanne xx
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Thank you Ann and then I sit here wondering well she was there for me when I called her and asked her to go to the hospital and because I was hour and a half away and she stayed with me at the hospital with Theo. Should I really be upset because she did not come by and see me while she was in town? Am I being unreasonable?
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Hi Zoe, thank you for your kind message.
I am so sorry about the loss of your son, any age is too young for our children to die and as you say it is so unfair. It hurts beyond belief and its hard to know which way to turn but this website has been so helpful and supportive.
Take care all, sending love xxx
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Hi shellyanne
Yes so cruel your daughter so young this cancer dont make sense sam had sarcoma a very rare cancer the marsden wanted sam to be a case study because they had not seen it before its wicked .i have had breast cancer im a lucky one i pray. The worlds so cruel at times .day by day .our lives have changed forever xx
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Yes it’s a cruel awful disease the doctors said they couldn’t believe how aggressive this cancer was and how quickly it had spread in someone so young it had gone to far then she came home for a week then she passed I don’t think il ever come to terms with the girls passing most days are a struggle and my girls live in Sheffield area and I live in Derby area so I go over once a month to see my other daughter s and got to Leah and Katie s grave but the guilt is awful because working 2 jobs and my partner working I can’t get up as much as I’d like to go I’m hoping to move bk closer to my girls but that’s going to take time. Thank you for the lovely messages. Shellyanne XX 
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Hi dear friends and have been reading all your post , of how you are feeling and how you lost your beautiful children , my heart goes out to all of you , so many ways they have passed . Dawn always said do not let me go back into Winchester Hospital they will kill me off . But at the end of the day I was so pleased she went into any hospital , But I did find them so uncaring , and I always thought that if she went back into Southampton General she would still be here , wishful thinking . But as usual Sarah , hasent been in contact , but today as usual she is blaming me , all she wants to do is put me on tablets even after nearly 6 years , but what she doesn’t understand she is the problem , . No sympathy or much contact . This morning I was again at my lowest , , I just wanted to be with Dawn . , . But had to pull myself together as we have a friend coming round tonight that lost her Husband 3 years ago . How the hell do I comfort her . Maddie xxxx
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Hi all hope you all have had a peaceful day so far I so sympathize with you I really do I’ve also thought I wanted to be with my daughter s and I’d feel no more pain but I had to pull myself together because my other daughter s would be feeling what I’m feeling now and I’ve got a big brood of grandkids and my partner I’m struggling so bad but I try and keep going but God it’s hard .As for your friend luv just be there for her and say I’m always here for you if you ever need me I’m sure she ll understand you situation and bereavement anyway take care everyone luv and hugs xx
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Dear Maddie, so sorry you have this ongoing problem with Sarah. It seems so unfair.
Sending you love and hugs, Ann 
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Dear Racy, it’s kind of you to remember how she was there for you before, but that makes it seem more odd that she didn’t come to see you this time.
I don’t think you are being unreasonable at all, I would be upset too.
Who knows what the explanation is.
I think you might have to give her the benefit of the doubt and try to let go of this bad experience and try to send her kind thoughts.
Hope you are having a better day, much love Ann
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Dear Anne , Thankyou for your kind words , let’s face it Such a struggle for all of us . With love Maddiexx
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It is a struggle even 3 years on.
Much love Kate xx
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Hang in there darling girl. We are all together holding you up by your armpits, keeping your head above water.
Lots of love and hugs.
Kate xxx
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Hang on in there luv we are all supporting you XX 
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Hello all, I’ve been a bit of a wreck today, but not on my account. I’m feeling so desperately sorry for my son-in-law Michael. I’ve been feeding the cat because he’s been on a short business trip to Belgium, and he rang me when he got back to thank me, but really he just needed to talk. He should have been telling Katherine all about it, texting her when he got on the plane, when he landed, when he was nearly home, all the running commentary you do when you are away, but he just had a silent house to return to. He puts on the brave face, but I know he’s devastated.
I’m old, I’ve got my partner, but he just has emptiness and loneliness ahead. I can’t bear it for him. It’s really got to me today.
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Oh Ann
This life is cruel . We are all heartbroken but so is close family and friends . It just affects everyone . Thinking of you much love zoe
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Thank you Zoe, you are always kind
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Hi Ann that’s the thing isn’t it…we not only have our own grief but we feel the grief of all the others too. When I read a lot of the posts it has occurred to me that in a way it was a blessing that Andrew wasn’t in a relationship nor had any children. I know all of you with grandchildren are feeling their pain too.
I’ve felt immensely sorry for my ex husband as he was very close to Andrew too and they did a lot together. He lives on his own, has no family or close friends so Andrew was the one he did things with.
What I’m trying to say is that I am perhaps able to cope with the grief easier as I’m not feeling the heartbreak for grandchildren or bereaved partners.
In a selfish way I’m able to concentrate on myself and how I get through each day.
Having said all that those of you with grandchildren will always have a part of your child there in them…something I’m a bit sad I don’t have.
Seems there’s no right answer to grief really.
Sorry to waffle on
Love and hugs to all…Sue xxxx
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Dear Sue,
Perfectly put I totally understand what you mean.
Sending much love to you from Michelle xxxx
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Yesterday we had our daughter Aimee’s graduation Aimee is in yellow, it was a lovely day but tinged with sadness as Matt wasn’t there in person but we felt his spirit and know he would be so proud of his sisters, Isabel in blue graduated in April, sou proud of all my babies
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