Lost 2 family members

I lost my mum 3 weeks ago and my uncle , her brother just over 1 week ago. I would have spoken to the both daily, my mum a couple of times a day. I haven’t been able to cry properly yet…I just feel so numb.

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Hi L32,
I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mum and Uncle, you must be in shock, losing your Mum is so hard, as she’s been with you all of your life, knows you like nobody else, everybody grieves differently, I wish I could tell you that in a few weeks you would be over it, but I can’t, all you can do is take a day at a time, eventually you learn to live with it, keeping myself really busy helped me, it’s stops you thinking too much also I try and get out into the fresh air every day, nature is a great healer, sending love Jude xx

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Thank you Jude. I’m trying to keep busy but my mind keeps wandering, sending hugs Lucy x

So sorry for Ur loss .it’s so hard I lost my brother in December and finding it so hard

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I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. I can’t imagine how that feels, I’m an only child. But I know that going to phone that loved one only to remember they’re not there feels. If I can help in any way, please tell me. Lucy.x

Thank u so much Lucy just finding it so hard to come to terms with he was my baby brother and we were so close growing up

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Would you like to talk about him, tell me a bit about him ?

He was so lovely kind guy we used to have such laughs growing up he was very like me he was married with a daughter and found out he was going to be a grandad just before he died … u couldn’t have gotten a nicer guy

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Awww, he sounds fun. I bet he’d have made a great grandad, full of fun and mischief. Part of him will live on in the wee one and he/she can grow up knowing all about him. I keep reaching for the phone to talk to my mum and my uncle. Are you getting support from family? I’m finding it hard, everyone seems to be getting on with things and expecting me to do the same.

It is so hard I am getting bit of support from them but don’t like to get upset for my mums sake it must so hard for u I know as well I just spend my time looking at his picture and listening to favourite music

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U can’t just get on with thing I mean it was December he died and there’s not a day goes by that I don’t think of him I’m sure u are the same everybody grieves in different ways

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I would like to get away away from it all for a couple of hours and scream at the top of my voice , cry till I can cry no more and sit and reflect or talk to someone who understands.

I’m sure your mum would understand, after all you are her son too. Maybe you both need to have a wee chat, she might think that talking to you would be upsetting for you. You could suggest having an afternoon or evening to talk about him,play his favourite music, reminisce. Tell her you don’t want to upset her anymore than she is but you need to do this. As a mum myself, I’m always thinking of my kids first.

Ben, if I’m saying too much or out of line please say.

No no Ur not but I’m a girl lol I think for some reason my name is Ben on here which is my grandsons name lol

U can talk to me at anytime on here as I feel the same

Oops sorry. I’m Lucy,

It’s ok I’m Jacki

How are you today Jacki

Good days and bad not too bad how r u