Lost both parents very suddenly - I'm 37

Losing a parent
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Hi there

I lost my Dad over a year ago in a road traffic collision , and now I’ve just lost my Mum who was only 64 a few days ago who had a very aggressive illness which was only discovered 5 weeks ago. I’m absolutely heartbroken as not only was my Mum my best friend, but I’m still grieving for my Dad too. I’m also an only child so I really have no family left apart from an uncle and a few cousins. I feel very lost and overwhelmed. I just miss them both so much and I’m struggling to find a way ahead. Each day I wake up and think how am I meant to move forward without them. I have a very supportive husband but he has a huge family and doesn’t really understand. :heart:

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Hello @Heather_28,

I’m so sorry to hear that you are having to deal with the sudden loss of your Mum and Dad so close together. It sounds as though things are very hard to process at the moment and you are feeling overwhelmed and lost which is completely understandable.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support soon. You might already be familiar with our other Online Bereavement Support services, but if not, you can find out more about our Online Counselling service, and our Grief Guide self-help tools by visiting the link.

You might also wish to take a look at the ‘Losing a parent’ page on our website.

Please take care - keep reaching out,
Megan

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I feel for you. I lost my mum 14 weeks and I
1 day ago she was run over we are heart broken. Our matriarch gone. Living in a world without my mum is the hardest thing ever. My mum was 72, but everyone used to think we were sisters not mum daughters and granddaughter. Life no longer has the same value.

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Hi Heather. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad to cancer in June 2023 (he was 68) then I lost my Mum 3 months later to cancer again (aged 58). Time has gone on and it still feels so hard. I havent come across many people who have lost 2 loved ones so close and it feels super lonely. I’m only 35 and it feels like a long time left without them. I understand what you mean, no one understands what you are going through and never will but you are not alone. Please reach out if you want to chat :broken_heart:

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