Lost direction after loosing mum

Losing a parent
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Hi In April 2020 my youngest of 3 girls flew the nest
A few months after my landlord was moving back and wanted the house I was renting
I then moved in with my parents
Not long after we were looking for houses in Tenerife
We went to live there in June 21
Then in September mum took Ill she couldn’t eat anything we thought it was a pouch she has in her throat but they couldn’t help in Tenerife as she hadn’t been there 6 months
So in the December 21 we came to England for Christmas and also to get mum checked out
Lots of test were carried out as mum was getting worse we found out feb 14th 2022 she had throat cancer she was given 6/12 months
She died in the September same time as the queen
It still feels like I’m going to see her but just can’t find her
Dad moved back to the house in Tenerife in January I’ve been over n helped with the clean up
It’s the only place I have my own space as all my things are there but I miss my kids/grandkids and feel I’m missing so much and my girls need there muni came back to England in may but have no where to stay all my daughters had me at theirs but I can’t seem to find my home as it was my mum she was my home
I don’t no weather to start from scratch in England and rent a 1 bed flat or rent a room
Or go back to tenerife I’m so lonely and don’t no where I should be xx

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Hello @Nickit ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling lost. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum things must be really difficult for you being split between two Countries. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,
Alex

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